Anna Stopinska-Lewucha

  • How to Turn Everyday Adventures into Educational Outings

    Every time you step outside your house, there are moments and opportunities for your children to learn. Nature walks, park visits, and neighborhood explorations can be more than just a way to pass the time – with a little intentionality, you can transform them into adventures that spark curiosity, promote independence, and cultivate a deep appreciation for nature. Today, Anna Stopinska-Lewucha, a UK mom of two boys, shares her experiences turning everyday outings into educational experiences that foster a love for learning, adventure, and exploration in her children. Her practical tips and creative ideas will inspire you to reconnect with your kids through the great outdoors and show you how to use nature and time outdoors to expand their academic knowledge and foster a love for nature and learning. 

    Let the children be free; encourage them; let them run outside when it is raining; let them remove their shoes when they find a puddle of water; and, when the grass of the meadows is damp with dew, let them run on it and trample it with their bare feet; let them rest peacefully when a tree invites them to sleep beneath it’s shade; let them shout and laugh when the sun wakes them in the morning as it wakes every living creature that divides its day between waking and sleeping.

    The Discovery of the Child by Maria Montessori

    boys exploring mud

    Learning goes beyond school and standardized testing

    Children who attend traditional schools follow their teachers’ teaching. And those teachers follow their countries’ national curricula, written by very wise people who know what’s best for our children.

    Or do they?

    Teaching is often dictated by national standards and exams (says a mum whose child’s full academic year is devoted to passing their SATS). The pressure schools feel to do well is immense and often dictates what and how they teach. However, hese very clever curriculum designers seem to have forgotten that our children are only children once. And the best learning doesn’t necessarily happen sitting still indoors for long hours reading, writing, and memorizing. 

    What is success anyway?

    Children (and parents) are told that kids need to comply in order to succeed.  But, succeed at what? Is this how “success” is actually measured? And what is success?

    Very likely, success is considered to be a well-paid job and a house (actually, a multi-year mortgage). I don’t necessarily want my kids to be this type of “successful.” Instead, I would like them to be curious, be lifelong learners, be excited about things that interest them, and (of course), be happy.

    So, I chose to be my kids’ unofficial, out-of-hours (and unpaid) teacher. Below, I’ve outlined what my “teaching” involves. Encouraging your kids to participate in outdoor educational activities not only enhances their knowledge but also fosters curiosity, independence, and a love for the natural world. These educational outings can be done whether you homeschool or your kids attend traditional schools. These simple yet effective strategies will help your children become well-rounded, curious, and independent. My hope is to convince you that, as a parent, you have educational superpowers and help you gain the confidence to use them.

    selling beans in back garden

    Learning can be fun and natural

    My children are expected to follow certain rules at school, but at home, they are allowed to be silly and go bonkers! I even try to join in whenever I can. We try to get outside to burn off that energy as much as we can. Honesty, it’s so good for my sanity to get out of the house and have fun outdoors.

    Our educational outings aren’t elaborate or take a lot of time. For example, recently, we went fell-walking (hiking), and we took my kids’ friend with us. After reaching the top of the hill and eating a snack, the boys started running down and then decided to roll downhill. Again and again, they rolled down the hill! Their laughter grew with each roll and got even wilder when they discovered they rolled through sheep droppings!

    When we got home, naturally, the conversation was all about sheep (and sheep poop). We discussed the sheep’s diet, watched videos of sheep chewing, and googled why they chewed (and found it disgusting). Then we looked up different types of animal poo. Did you know that there are so many different shapes and sizes? And all shapes, colors, and sizes have an explanation!

    What started out as a simple hike outside turned into an entire day of learning in a fun way. Just being outside and interacting with nature sparked their curiosity and led us to learn and discover so many new things. It was a great, fun, unstructured half-term day.

    (And I learned that greenish sheep droppings marks wash off easily in 40 C wash!)

    boys and a dog rolling down a hill

    Day off school is a micro-adventure day

    I don’t really know how it started, but ever since my kids were little, whenever they had a day off school, I took them out on my own, and we explored our local area. This time with them has become so precious to me. We rarely do anything fancy, but we’ve always included a visit to a nearby forest or seaside in our routine.

    I love to think that once they have grown, their days off will be structured around outdoor adventures. I hope these trips mean as much to them as they do to me. Even when the weather is bad, we still get out of the house. Sometimes, we’ll visit a local museum, check out books at the library, or enjoy a membership at our local aquarium.

    Indoor or out, each educational outing has so much potential for connecting kids with nature and learning new things. Planning outdoor educational activities is a great way to make the most of your time outside, combining fun with hands-on learning that reinforces what your kids are studying in school.

    Silhouettes inside Rydal Cave

    Rain does not count as “bad weather”

    We live in a beautiful part of the world where the grass is usually green. It’s green because we get a lot of rain throughout the year. So, if we let a little rain keep us indoors, we’d never go outside! As such, we don’t consider rain a reason to stay inside. After all, there’s no such thing as bad weather, right?

    We learned this concept long before we had kids. One Easter holiday, we stayed at shared accommodation and an elderly couple staying there told us that if they had been bothered by the weather in the UK, they never would have done or seen anything! Challenge accepted. We realised that our British friends rarely complained about the weather and decided that this was the way to go. 

    And this is the world my kids live in: with green grass and grey sky, wet, windy, and muddy most of the time.

    But, we make the best of it. We wear our wellies and waterproof clothing and the kids love it. We get out of the house every day, even if the weather is vicious. They do it because this is our “normal.” We’re made getting outside a priority. It hasn’t been easy, but the more you do it, the easier it gets! 

    And yes, we still have an occasional moan or complaint when the winter days are dark and short, but overall, my kids don’t know any different and they don’t mind the “bad” weather.

    a child exploring a frozen water hole

    Exploring historic places with kids

    One of my favorite ways to make our outdoor explorations educational (in a fun way) is to supplement what they’re learning in school with real-life, out-of-the-classroom, hands-on experiences. Whether it’s reinforcing a science lesson on plant life by visiting a local botanical garden or exploring the concept of geometry through natural shapes and patterns on a hike, I think these outings help bring abstract concepts to life. When kids can see, touch, and interact with what they’re studying, their understanding deepens, and their enthusiasm for learning grows.

    When my youngest child was learning about the Roman Empire at school, I decided that we would start our first big family challenge. We live near Hadrian’s Wall, which is a former defensive fortification of the Roman province of Britannia, begun in AD 122 during the reign of Emperor Hadrian. It was a stone wall with large ditches in front and behind, stretching across the whole width of the island, and the perfect symbolic way to weave some history into our outdoor adventures.

    Our challenge was to walk the entire Hadrian’s Wall Path! 

    Connecting with history through hiking

    We started to walk it, bit by bit, usually 2-3 miles at a time. These walks allowed for discussions about how the Romans might have felt in our difficult weather conditions, how their diet changed, how incredible it is that parts of the wall survived for almost two thousand years, and how their language influenced the English language. We talked about old times and modern times, including the late, upsetting event of the felling of the famous sycamore tree.

    The Path took us through diverse terrain, among different trees, fields, farmlands, and farm animals, at different times of the year. We had picnics and bought some treats at self-service “honesty sheds.”  We often saw the AD122 Hadrian’s Wall country bus, which helped us remember the date (year 122) when the construction of the Wall began, and met many interesting people along the way.

    By definition, a challenge is meant to be difficult, it’s a mixture of effort and satisfaction, and our Hadrian’s Wall Path challenge was certainly that!  It came with a lot of interesting “side effects” such as piqued curiosity for history, a love for the area, and a deep connection to the land.

    A fort on our walk along Hadrian's Wall Path

    Turning beach treasures into educational outings

    A trip to the beach can easily be transformed into an exciting educational experience for kids. The ocean can teach you about marine biology, environmental science, and even physics. I read somewhere that the sea is like a living museum, it keeps some objects in and sometimes decides to share them with us. During our years of visiting our local, although not very attractive beach (it has large pebbles and stones, no sand), we’ve found many objects that the water threw out, and my kids found them interesting. These treasure have made this their favorite beach to explore!

    I’ll always remember the day when my son found something flat and brownish on a beach. I assumed it was part of a plant, but he told us it was a baby shark. Just to prove him wrong, we looked it up and to our total surprise, learned that he was, in fact, correct! He was holding an egg case called a mermaid’s purse.

    Of course, we made a fuss, telling him how impressed we were with his knowledge. He told us he learned this at our local aquarium. When my kids were little, we bought a membership to a small coastal aquarium in a nearby town because it’s a friendly place, and both children enjoy our visits. I had no idea he was learning so much and paying attention to details when we visited. It was such a fun way to put that knowledge to real-life experience. 

    Observe, identify, learn

    If you want to turn your beach adventure into an educational experience, it doesn’t take much. Start by encouraging your children to observe and identify different types of shells, seaweed, and marine creatures they find along the shore. Looking them up and learning about them turns it into a mini marine biology lesson. You can also discuss the tide cycles and how the moon influences the rise and fall of the water, which can be a fascinating introduction to basic astronomy and physics. You can also teach them about the importance of protecting our oceans by doing a beach clean-up together, explaining how litter affects marine life and ecosystems. 

    We also went beachcombing in Northumberland and looked for “sea glass” and “sea pottery” (some with beautiful patterns). We found the history of these items absolutely fascinating. Sea glass and pottery are broken pieces that were thrown into the sea in the 18th and 19th centuries. Smothered and smoothed by water, they are now often used to create jewelry. That day we brought home a small jar with our precious findings. 

    A shark egg case (mermaid's purse), found on a beach

    Educational opportunities through camping

    If we look at camping through the lens of comfort, it is not at the top of the list. Camping requires a lot of energy, effort, preparation, knowledge, and resistance to little discomfort. However, camping in its raw beauty is where and when we make the most interesting memories as a family.

    A camping trip offers a wealth of opportunities to turn the great outdoors into a classroom for kids. As we set up camp, I like to involve the children in learning practical skills like choosing the spot for our tent (observation skills), pitching a tent (following directions and teamwork), and building a safe campfire (chemistry). At night, the dark skies provide a perfect backdrop for a lesson in astronomy—pointing out constellations and planets and even discussing the phases of the moon. 

    While they have to accept that unplugging is a part of camping adventure, they find ways to make the most of their time. This requires creativity and imagination. We particularly enjoy camping on farms, where farmers encourage kids to be near animals and where they can see what everyday farm work involves, which is a whole other set of skills and learning experiences. 

    Life lessons learned through camping

    Camping teaches my kids to accept some discomforts and enjoy the simplicity of just being together and being outdoors. Life is not always comfortable, but you can survive (and thrive) without modern conveniences and comforts. It’s important for kids to learn those lessons. 

    I also appreciate that camping requires flexibility, which is especially valuable for my routine-loving, autistic child. Last summer, I took him camping on my own and it rained continuously for three days. We were wet and cold, and our clothes were soaked with rain. To make it bearable, we spent as much time as possible exploring the area (soaked, of course) and returning to the campsite for dinner and sleeping. That can be really hard for kids with sensory issues, yet, he accepted it as it was and adjusted without too much protest.

    My kids also love coming back home from our camping trips. They enjoy their after-camping bath soak in the bathtub, the luxury of not sharing toilets with other people, cupboards stocked with their favourite snacks, a fridge full of food, and having their devices charged. They appreciate home (and all its conveniences and luxuries) even more after camping. Camping trips are important gratitude lessons, great fun, and a good reminder that we take the comfort of our own homes for granted.

    Simple camping and simple dinners

    Learning about the past through outdoor experiences

    Since we have established that today’s homes are filled with modern conveniences that make life comfortable and easy, my next recommendation is to visit places where people lived in the past so kids can learn about just how far we’ve come. I recommend taking them on visits to historical sites, museums, or recreated villages where they can see firsthand how people lived in the past. These visits offer a tangible connection to history, allowing children to explore homes without electricity, see how families cooked meals over open fires, or learn about the labor-intensive processes of washing clothes by hand or growing food.

    My children really enjoy going to open-air museums and visiting castles and old settlements. Such places not only help us appreciate the cosiness of our homes but also give us insight into the lives of people who lived long ago. Of course, these places are packed with educational facts and figures.

    How people lived in the past

    I don’t think (I hope not) my kids are the only ones who are fascinated by the very practical elements of the lives of people from the past. They don’t seem to get bored of exploring, for instance, how people used their toilets and where all their sewage went. And, they always get put off if a display includes any objects used for punishment or public humiliation (but enjoyed being pilloried for a photo). They usually enjoy looking at children’s toys and furniture and show very little interest in what schools used to be like (especially after learning what the long wooden rulers were for).

    A few years ago, we explored the north of Scotland and visited Skara Brae. The Neolithic Orcadian village amazed us all, but for my kids, the sight of stone furniture made and used long before the Egyptian pyramids (and schools talk a lot about Egyptian pyramids) was an unforgettable experience that they still remember to this day.

    By stepping into the shoes of people from different eras, kids can gain a deeper understanding of the advancements we often take for granted today and develop a greater appreciation for the conveniences of modern life. These experiences not only make history come alive but also foster a sense of gratitude and perspective on how human ingenuity and hard work have shaped the world we live in.

    Scottish castle near Larg

    Nights are for adventures, too

    A nighttime outdoor adventure can be a magical and educational outing for kids, opening their eyes to the wonders of the natural world (and educational opportunities) after dark.I find that parents are, by nature, not very keen on night-time adventures. However, nights are amazingly stimulating and fascinating for children.

    The first and most obvious example of a nighttime outdoor adventure is observing the sky. Children love stars, planets, and the Moon. And a warm sky-clear night is a perfect opportunity to show them what’s hidden from us during the day. We use the Sky Guide app, and both kids found it interesting that everything “out there” is labeled on the phone screen. 

    My neurotypical child surprised me the first time when we used the app, stating that he knew the names of constellations from school, because they had been learning about ancient Greek and Roman cultures at the time. I can only imagine his pride when he found the connection and it all became more meaningful to him.

    Bring along a telescope or binoculars to enhance their stargazing experience, and explain the science behind what they see. You can also engage their senses by listening to nocturnal animals, like owls or crickets, and discussing how these creatures have adapted to life at night.

    Night hikes

    Another great night-time experience is walking in the darkness. We have our favourite fell (hill summit), that we sometimes climb, to see the setting sun. After the beautiful spectacle ends, we start walking down, getting used to reducing visibility.  We always have head torches with us, but our goal is to walk down without them as long as we can. As we don’t have dangerous wild animals in the UK, such adventure is safe (and we know the route well) and allows for great sensory experiences.

    It’s a great opportunity to teach kids about the importance of our senses in low-light environments, encouraging them to rely on hearing, touch, and smell as much as sight. Additionally, sometimes, we discuss the concept of light pollution and its impact on wildlife, sparking a conversation about environmental stewardship. 

    Walking on the beach in the moonlight is also interesting and very different from walking down the forest.

    Additional resources

    If you’re looking for more information, we have a couple really great articles and resources about getting outside at night:

    A night time walk

    Raising future environmentalists

    Taking kids outside and encouraging them to be part of nature helps to form an emotional attachment with the natural world. It’s not about showing them pictures of animals suffering consequences of climate change (I wouldn’t show them to my kids, but one of their schools did), or videos of natural disasters. Schools are, of course, talking about this topic, but it is up to us us, parents, to consistently encourage our kids to feel that they are part of nature, to develop an emotional connection that will make them passionate about making changes and making future decisions.

    Our actions will show them more than any workshop, class or lecture. We are their bridge to the planet and we need to be good examples. Let’s reduce our own consumerism, recycle waste, use back gardens to grow vegetables, avoid unnecessary waste, repair items that can be repaired, make the effort and use public transport, and avoid plastic packaging. And, hopefully, by simply being with them in nature we will encourage them to think that nature is their happy place and they should take good care if it.

    If you’re interested, we have a great resource for helping your family become more eco-friendly, one little step at a time: Sustainability Challenge & Action Guide

    Showing a little bug that landed on his hand

    Out-of-school teaching and learning

    If you really want to make sure your time outdoors is educational, it’s easier than you think. Incorporating outdoor educational activities into your family’s routine doesn’t have to take a lot of time or prior knowledge. You can learn right along with them! It’s easier than you think to  turn everyday adventures into valuable learning experiences for your kids.

    Here are some ideas on how you can use after school hours, weekends and holidays in nature to enrich your child’s knowledge of traditional school topics. By engaging in outdoor educational activities, children can deepen their understanding of school subjects while developing a stronger connection to nature.

    Math

    • Count, add or multiply your steps & things around you
    • Collect nature treasures and count them (e.g. shells, leaves, flowers)
    • Teach about weight by comparing different objects (e.g. rocks and sticks)
    • Create patterns or mandalas with nature objects (leaves, rocks, sticks, pine cones)
    • Teach about length (long and short sticks) and distances (how many steps did we do today and how many miles or kilometres that was?)
    • Measure earthworms
    • Explain big and small, tall and short using examples found in nature
    • Demonstrate the meaning of volume and capacity

    English/language arts/vocabulary

    • Just talk to your child, and engage with them while you’re out in nature
    • Ask open-ended engaging questions while you hike (e.g. by asking what they think about something)
    • Use different adjectives to describe the world around you (e.g. fabulous, frightening, monumental, fantastic, terrifying, colorful, odoriferous) 
    • Encourage them to use their imagination and tell you as story about the place you’re exploring
    • Read road signs or information boards together
    • Visit a forest with a themed trail or storybook trail (e.g. we have a Gruffalo trail near us and it’s one of my kids’ favourite place to go)

    Exploring a second hand book shop, situated in an old bus stop

    History

    • Take your child to a place where historic events took place
    • Take them to open museums, heritage sites, villages, and castles
    • Visit places of religious importance
    • Think about place names
      • For example, the area where we live in England was influenced by the presence of Norse and Roman in the past which is reflected in the names of places. Cumbrian hills aren’t called “hills” or “mountains” by the locals, they are called “fells”. “Fjell” in modern Norwegian means “mountain.”
    • Research famous historic figures from your area.
      • For example, a popular surname in Cumbria is Armstrong, and so our little place in the world is linked to the moon landing. Apparently, Neil Armstrong’s family has roots in northern England and southern Scotland.
    • Try a bush craft workshop to give them an idea about what our ancestors could have made with materials available at the time
    • Re-enactment events and medieval fairs are full of child-friendly attractions and historical excitement

    Geography

    • Talk about the weather when you are outside (it’s very British, I know)
    • Use and explain geographical terminology when away from home (e.g. hamlet, village, town and city; lake, sea and ocean; hill, mountain and valley; beach, cliff, coast and harbour)
    • Reading and understanding a map is a great skill
    • Geocaching is a good way to introduce digital maps
    • Visit a famous landmark or monument in your area
    • Find and visit some places with silly, surprising or unusual names in your area
      • For example, our summer camping trip to Scotland took us to Moscow, which is in southern Scotland.
    • If you live near a river, find where it starts and see how the river changes

    Science

    • Build a bug hotel in your garden
    • Have a campfire and cook your own food
    • Create a mud kitchen (a very simple idea, and kids love it)
    • Try birdwatching. You can start in your garden or somewhere near home.
    • Go around and explore a garden or forest to find mini-beasts in their natural habitat (get yourself a pocket microscope)
    • Plant some flowers for bees and butterflies
    • Plant a vegetable garden
    • Do no-mow May (if your neighbours don’t object)
    • Going outside all year round can help to understand what happens to water in different temperatures
    • Identify trees, plants, mushrooms and berries
    • Visit a working farm where children can see what farming involves
    • Go on a scavenger hunt (download our free scavenger hunt bundle)
    • Collect rubbish in a public space (e.g. park, trail, beach)
    • Explore different environments (e.g. forests, beaches, wetlands, mountains, fields) and talk about what makes them special
    • Have a rest and enjoy looking at the sky
    • Show your child what’s happening in your compost bin from time to timeBurning dry dandelions in the back garden

    Arts

    • Leaf rubbing, a simple and easy activity, is great for children with short attention span
    • Chalk or water drawing on pavement
    • Set up an easel outside and paint
    • Visiting an art or sculpture trail
    • Making mud pies, with some decorative elements (e.g. grass, pine cones, sticks or flowers)
    • Making a collage from what they find on a nature walk
    • Paining with their hands and feet

    Sensory enrichment activities

    My personal interest in sensory integration developed when my older son was diagnosed as autistic and I was looking for ways to support his sensory development. Run Wild my Child has published an article which I dedicated to Autism and Nature. However, sensory integration is important to every child’s development, and here are some ideas for sensory outdoor activities:

    • Take a forest walk and ask them to pay attention to what they can smell, see and hear
    • Take them somewhere where there are rocks they can climb
    • Take them to a beach and allow them to walk around barefoot
    • Let them walk barefoot on grass, leaves and moss
    • Play animal movements
    • Encourage them to carry sticks, branches, rocks and wood for open fire
    • Use playgrounds
    • Play balancing games on fallen trees, logs and rocks
    • Make most of snowy season if you are lucky to have one
    • Allow them to play in mud and dirt

    Mental health benefits

    In this article I’ve listed many educational benefits of taking our children outside and giving them time and space to play and learn. I’ve created this list to demonstrate that every time you take your children outdoors, they gain something from it. There are countless outdoor educational activities that can be tailored to your child’s interests, from nature walks that teach about ecosystems to stargazing that introduces basic astronomy.

    However, in my humble opinion, the most important lesson we can give our offspring is to use outdoors as a way of finding themselves and of creating a bond with us and nature. This is what I want to convince you to do: to take them out and just let them be.

    Nature allows kids to be kids

    I love the idea of allowing kids to be their own teachers, of letting them explore outdoors at their own pace. Allow them to take risks, encourage them to use their senses, and of let them feel that they are in charge of their exploration. Whether it’s a beach day, a hike, or a camping trip, you can easily integrate outdoor educational activities to make these experiences both enjoyable and enriching for your family.

    We live in an increasingly demanding and stressful world. Perhaps allowing our children just to be children, be wild and carefree when outside, is a good enough life lesson. Hopefully, teaching our children good habits of getting out and connecting with nature, with people who are important to them, in the way they feel is best for them, is what they really need from us. 

    Schools aren’t designed to teach children to be in nature, gain resilience, trust their own judgment, cope with life’s discomforts, and prioritise their own needs over societal expectations. But I can teach them these things; nature can teach them these things, and you can, too.

    How do you use the outdoors to teach kids? 

    About the author

    Anna is a mum of two energetic boys and the wife of Cezary. Before they started a family, they enjoyed backpacking and hitchhiking. Once the kids arrived, they adjusted their lifestyle and settled down in the beautiful Lake District, in the northwest of England. It’s often foggy and rainy where they live, but, they are outdoors in any weather. Anna is an ultramarathon runner, and Cezary loves triathlons, so, the children grow up being involved in hiking, trail running, cycling, all-year-round wild water swimming, and camping.

    Stefan is 12 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Antek is a neurotypical 10-year-old. Anna believes in positive psychology, in creating good moments and capturing memories. She believes being outdoors brings them together as a family and advocates for children with additional needs to be encouraged to explore and play outside. She trusts nature is a natural playground, enriches and stimulates the senses, and this is where she sees her children happiest. 

    You can find more from Anna in the following online location:

  • Prioritizing Adventures With Our Children Over Perfection At Home

    In a world that often glorifies picture-perfect homes and Instagram-worthy parenting moments, the pressure to have it all together can be overwhelming. Many moms struggle with the relentless pursuit of trying to achieve perfection at home, and how to balance that with spending quality time with their children. Today, Anna Stopinska-Lewucha, a UK mum of two boys, shares how and why she decided to avoid social pressures and swap perfection for more adventures with her children. Anna’s story serves as an inspiring testament to the power of prioritizing what truly matters in the beautiful chaos of parenthood, over the need to look perfect on the outside.

    Prioritizing adventures with our children over perfection at home - sunflower field visit

    The struggle for perfection

    Life in the 21st century is filled with the amazing opportunity to live a life full of adventure. Opportunities for adventure come in all forms. It’s easier than ever to travel wherever our heart desire. We can work and study wherever and whatever we want. We have the opportunity to have amazing careers and beautiful families. Maybe we can even do it all at once, achieving some kind of super-human balance in life.

    However, trying to have it all means that we are constantly struggling for perfection. Chasing perfection creates anxiety, makes us feel like we are not good enough, and makes us question our abilities. It’s also not good for our mental health; it consumes most of our time and is emotionally and physically exhausting.

    Chasing the perfect family life

    The constant drive for perfection can lead to burnout, imposter syndrome, and the gnawing fear of never being good enough. We obsess over every detail, second-guessing our abilities and fearing failure at every turn. The mounting pressure to reach unattainable standards can consume us, leaving us with a never-ending cycle of self-doubt and anxiety.

    The pressure to create a flawless home and raise perfect children is overwhelming. In our pursuit of the ideal family life, we often fail to embrace the beautiful messiness of parenthood, forgetting that children thrive on love, creativity, and genuine connections, not on spotless homes and meticulously planned schedules.

    This relentless chase for perfection can eventually erode our self-esteem, making us question our parenting abilities and causing us to miss out on the spontaneous, heartwarming moments that make family life truly remarkable. Ultimately, the pursuit of perfection, whether in our careers or families, can lead to a state of constant unease, convincing us that we are perpetually falling short of the unattainable standard we’ve set for ourselves.

    Pressure to perform

    The struggle for perfection, in and of itself, is not always bad.  Anyone reading this article can find many examples of situations where perfection is needed and desired. Would an Olympian become an Olympian without mastering their skills in their chosen sport? Would we as humanity have achieved what we have achieved, without constant improvement and greater effort? Medicine, science, and engineering are all examples of disciples that demand a constant need for perfection. How far would we (as a society) go if we did not strive to do better?

    However, that’s not what we’re talking about here. This article is not written for highly motivated professionals. We’re speaking to mums who feel pressured to perform at superhuman levels. The mums who don’t feel like they’re ever going to be good enough. The ones who question the idea of perfection that society imposes on them, those who do not find the culture of chasing perfection attractive. We’re talking to you…the mum who wants to be a great parent and is tired of trying to keep up with everyone else. The mum who craves passion, adventures, and quality time with her kids. YOU! 

    Perfect parenting is an oxymoron

    Dear mums, a word of warning before we go any further: I’m not a trained parenting expert.

    I will not give you any professional advice. I don’t always know what I’m doing and make mistakes all the time.

    In fact, this article won’t even be perfect, as I am trying not to put too much pressure on myself to achieve perfection at all costs. Instead, I will use my heart and my own experiences to hopefully inspire you to put perfection aside and instead seek connection. I’m going to share with you how and why I don’t aim for perfection as a parent.

    And, from the very bottom of my imperfect heart, I want to tell you that through putting perfection aside, I’ve learned that my children love imperfection, chaos, spontaneity, mess, and adventures (which sometimes go wrong). They thrive in the mess. Chances are yours will too.

    The gift of imperfection

    I wholeheartedly admit (to anyone that will listen), that I am not perfect. I’m not a perfect mum; I’m not a perfect wife; I’m not a perfect daughter, or friend, or writer. And I’m not trying to be. 

    Several elements contributed to my imperfection, but one of the most formative reasons I’m not striving for perfection is because I don’t see my own mum as a perfect mum. She is a wonderful mum, but definitely not perfect. This is a powerful gift that my mother doesn’t even realize she gave me.

    My parents are retired farmers, and my mum was always busy at the farm and with the kids. She worked day and night, around the clock. But, our house was never super tidy. She simply did not have time to do it all. She had to prioritise her tasks, and maintaining a perfectly clean home wasn’t at the top of the list. We (the kids) were. 

    My sister and I had a lot of her attention. We were clean, and well-fed, and our homework was always checked before we went to bed. We were loved.

    My mother wasn’t, as some call it, “a proud housewife.” Instead, she was very practical and down to earth. In fact, she was (and still is) a great, great mum, who had to make choices every day, and a presentable home was not on her priority list. And I’m so grateful for that. 

    The quest for perfection

    Why do we strive for perfection? As mums, why do we dream of having always happy and smiling children, who do not make mess or noise (especially in public)? Why do we want to have neat, spotless homes and immaculate front gardens?

    I suppose it’s because perfection is socially admired, and we care what other people think about us. Being ambitious is admired. As is the ability to keep a highly-paid job, a beautiful home, and impeccably behaved children. We try so hard because we want to be seen as successful and good. We tie that all up in our own personal worth. And as parents, the great condition of our children and our homes is proof of our accomplishments and worthiness. 

    Autism; my parenting teacher

    I suppose I followed the same path before my son was diagnosed as autistic. I wanted to have perfectly well-behaved presentable kids with manners. However, my son was often challenged by sensory stimuli, which resulted in frequent meltdowns in public. 

    After the diagnosis, we, as a family, had two options. One of them was to hide and not to go to places. Not being exposed to the looks of others sounded like a safe choice.

    Our other choice (and the one we chose), was to get out there, get all the attention (whether we wanted it or not), and stop worrying about what other people thought of us. Those people aren’t parenting our children. They don’t know what’s going on in our lives. They don’t get a say in how we choose to raise our kids. 

    And when we mastered (perfected?) this magical ability, life became simply easier and happier.

    So, I ended up with noisy children, a wild garden, and a very mediocre job. But, I am a much happier version of my younger self, because I realised that people still appreciate me for who I am. And I also know that my children like spending time with me and they enjoy wildness of their childhood. When they move out I’ll tidy our house up and keep on top of my chores.

    Positive psychology

    While writing my dissertation on happiness in the context of parenting autistic children, I came across a concept called positive psychology. It gave me some very useful ideas on how I could focus on my children’s strengths and emphasized the importance of giving children a good, meaningful childhood, filled with positive experiences and powerful memories at its centre.

    One book, called The Practical Guide to Happiness in Children and Teens on the Austim Spectrum struck me as particularly convincing and helpful. This book made me realise that it was my job, as their parent, to help make their childhoods happy and memorable. It was up to me and their dad to teach them resilience, confidence and compassion. Instead of talking about ways to “cure” or “fix” my child, this book helped me realize that I needed to shift my focus to my child’s individual strengths and help make happiness a priority and an attainable goal for him.

    Plus, I really loved the idea of making our simple lives wonderful and exciting here and now. In a nutshell, positive psychology encouraged me to give my children a solid foundation, so they can flourish, be more creative and confident, less stressed, and more appreciative of the little moments in life. (And couldn’t we all benefit from that?)

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    Making good memories

    At about the same time I discovered the importance of making good memories for my children, I also decided to “hire” nature as our physiotherapist (you can read about it here). These two decisions to prioritise getting outside and creating a happy childhood seemed to go hand-in-hand.  However, it soon became clear that to make these memories really meaningful for the children, I needed to shift my role from the decision-maker of the family to an attentive follower of what they wanted to do and needed to get there.

    In practice, this meant gently bending and stretching my older child’s rigid, autistic routines so that we could be more spontaneous and try more new things. This also meant allowing both children some choices of activities and destinations. Both these things resulted in many hours spent jumping in puddles, playing in the mud, getting wet and dirty, climbing what looked unclimbable, focusing on something trivial, and generally a lot of unstructured, outdoor free play.

    It took up a lot of their time (and mine). Time that wasn’t spent tidying the house. That wasn’t spent furthering my career. Time invested in them. To me, their happiness justified the imperfect home.

    how to get out of that "you only have 18 summers" mindset - prioritizing adventures

    The pressure of “only having 18 summers”

    We get 18 delicious summers with our children. This is one of your 18. If that’s not perspective, I don’t know what is.” Jessica Scott

    The above quote about only having 18 summers with our children really struck me when I first read it. That poignant reminder that our time with our children is so fleeting and precious made me a bit anxious and panicky. I immediately felt like searching the Internet and booking an amazing vacation for every summer we have left as a family. Because we only have 18 summers. And look how many we’ve already wasted! 

    Then, a friend told me that her 13-year-old would rather spend time with her friends than with her mum and dad, and that made her really happy. A 40-year-old lady at work said she spends (willingly) every summer holiday with her children as well as her parents. I thought of all the time I still spend with my parents. 

    I also realized that booking an “amazing holiday vacation” every summer would cost much, much more than our usual, cheap camping road trips (which we all loved and cherished), which meant I would have to work more hours or find an additional job to be able to afford them. Which, of course, means spending less actual time with the kids. That was confusing…

    Relieving the pressure

    While I understand the sentiment of the quote, I slowly realised that it evoked exactly the wrong feeling in me and added more pressure and anxiety to get it right (to make it perfect). 

    Yes, I might only have 18 summers with the kids. Then again, I might have only 13 summers or 40+ summers. And, I also have an entire life beyond summer with them. Our life and time with our children should not be limited to summer months (especially since summers are so short in the country where we live…not fair).

    And I also understand that making memories does not necessarily mean spending an impressive amount of money on an elaborate and expensive 2-week vacation every summer. Summer can look however we want it to look, whether that’s camping, traveling, or just jumping in a lot of puddles.

    Once again, it made me realise that random online wisdom and that pressure to be the perfect parent (and have the perfect summers) could be doing me more harm than good and that I needed to give myself some space to think about what my priorities were and what really mattered to me. 

    Discovering “micro-adventures”

    Fortunately, someone helped me find an antidote to the unfortunate “you only have 18 summers” quote. My manager told me about Alastair Humphrey, a British adventurer (National Geographic’s Adventurer of the Year, actually), who travelled far and wide, only to discover that amazing adventures were closer than ever, and didn’t need a lot of money to make happen.

    His concept of micro adventures encourages people to seek meaningful outdoor experiences close to home, emphasizing that adventure is not confined to far-off, exotic destinations. Micro adventures are short, accessible, and often spontaneous outdoor escapades that can be undertaken in a few hours or over a weekend, making them easily accessible to anyone with a desire for adventure. They are important because they promote a sense of exploration, help break the monotony of everyday life, and encourage individuals to connect with nature, fostering a spirit of adventure and curiosity in their daily routines.

    Thanks to him, I also learned about another concept that gave us so much more time to adventure. He widely promotes the idea that there is space for adventure and fun between 5:00 p.m. and 9:00 a.m. (which we adjusted to after school hours and weekends). Yes, you may work from “9 to 5,” but adventures can happen from 5 to 9! 

    Alastair explains that micro adventures are “simple expeditions and challenges that are close to home, affordable and easy to organise. Ideas designed to encourage everyday people to get out and do something for themselves, even in these tight financial times.” The very ordinary person in me jumped for joy and erased “18 summers” from my mind once and for all. 

    Simple adventures over perfection

    So, I dug into Alastair’s list of ideas and found some that were absolutely NOT for us. However, some were very much for us! So, we decided on a few of them and got started doing simple camping trips, sleeping in camping pods, short day trips, wild water swimming, local bike rides, fell (mountain) walking, and after school, quick out-of-town adventures with fresh excitement. 

    Since summers in Northern England are short and the weather is rather moody, we often have to deal with elements when we’re out adventuring. Also, quite often, we decide to go on last-minute outings when we do have good weather in order to make the most of our afternoons and weekends. We have the advantage of living near a national park, close to the coast, and very near Scotland. Our Novembers are five months long (November lasts through March), so, we accept and embrace it, still doing things outside, maybe in a different way, but having fun. 

    Adventure is calling (and we must go)

    This shift in our attitude, both towards going on more adventures and making the most of our time, has really changed our family. We’re more flexible, more willing to say yes, and less focused on everything being perfect. We leave the house a mess so we can get outside. The dishes and the laundry can wait…adventure is calling. 

    All photos in this article were taken during such adventures to demonstrate how worth it was (and still is) to trade a spotless house for making memories with our children. And it is these micro-adventures, often at the last-minute, without a proper plan, where the state of our house and our front garden pays the greatest price.

    Will my children remember this? I’m not sure. But, I know I will. And even if they don’t remember the actual adventure, I think they will remember all the spontaneous fun we had.

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    Following the lead

    The poem below by Vicky Ryan, has become one of my most favourite poems. I feel like it accurately summarises my choices as a mum. The choices that have made all the difference for us. 

    “My dishes went unwashed today
     I didn’t make my bed
     I took his hand and followed
    Where eager footsteps led

    Oh Yes, we went adventuring
    My little child and I
    Exploring all the great outdoors
    Beneath the sun and sky

    We watched a robin feed her young
    We climbed a sunlit hill
    Saw cloud-sheep scamper through the sky
    We plucked a daffodil.

    That my house was so neglected
    That I didn’t brush the stairs
     In twenty years no one on earth
    Will know or even care.

    But that I’ve helped my little child
    To noble adulthood grow
    In twenty years the whole wide world
    May look and see and know.”

    Start adventuring small

    Once you decide to ditch your dishes and take your children outside instead, you should know that tailoring simple adventures to suit their age, abilities, and preferences is very important. You want to make getting outside fun (and a bit of a challenge), but you shouldn’t push them too hard when you’re just getting started.

    To be honest, I found Alastair’s list of micro adventures a bit scary at first. However, I took great comfort in learning that any time we stepped out of the house and did something outside, it could be called an adventure. And as my children get older, and we get more comfortable outside, trying new things, the list of adventures we can have together expands.

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    Our list of micro adventures

    Here is my own list of micro adventures that our family has tried (and loved):

    • Blackberry picking (and then baking a crumble together).
    • Climbing over rocks, boulders, and fallen trees. Great for improving balance and body strength and is one of my boys’ favourites.
    • A forest walk. You can go to the same forest again and again, Seasonal changes are always interesting, and most children love being in the woods.
    • Exploring a map of our local area and letting them decide where to go.
    • Hiking. My two can walk for miles as long as I promise them ice cream.
    • Crabbing. So much excitement!
    • Visiting a cave. Our latest discovery! Both children found the acoustics fascinating.
    • Wild swimming. Actually, we changed this one to just entering any open water, as we don’t push them too hard. Even dipping their feet in cold waters counts.
    • Foraging for mushrooms. Neither of my kids will eat mushrooms, but they love looking for them!
    • A night-time walk. Great for winter months when the nights are long. It’s an amazing sensory experience (and a good way to show them that the Skin Walker they saw on YouTube isn’t there, despite the video’s 11M views).
    • Running away from a storm. We got absolutely drenched in rain, on that day but, look at their faces!

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    Simplicity and spontaneity

    The above micro adventures are all after-school, spontaneous outings (done in that 5-9 time frame). They can be easily adapted to the place where you live and your children’s interests. These did not cost us much (petrol, sandwiches and snacks, crabbing kit and ice cream) and did not require any special preparation. Keeping the activities simple mean that we can do them at a moment’s notice, whenever the fancy strikes us (or the weather cooperates). 

    The magic happens when you get out of the house

    One of our favorite adventures last year was when my husband woke up with a cold one Saturday. Our house was in desperate need for a good cleaning, but my husband needed some rest, so I took the boys out on a short hike to our favourite fell.

    It was a frosty December morning, and there were thousands of spiderwebs hanging throughout the forest, all beautifully frozen and shining in the rising sun. The three of us spent so much time admiring these gorgeous works of nature.

    Then, when we reached the top of the fell, there was a cloud inversion! Imagine, being a child and feeling like you’re standing on top of the world, having nothing but clouds under your feet! It was truly magical. And nothing that we ever could have planned for. We would have missed both the frozen spiderwebs and the clouds if we had stayed home and tidied the house.

    And that is what I am trying to sell here: delight on their faces, the twinkle in their eyes, and seeing them immersed in the moment. My laundry and dishes are worth the sacrifice….

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    Because in the end…

    Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddam mountain.” Jack Kerouac

    An impressive career and a spotless house are admirable. But, I have a feeling that years (decades from now), giving our children a magical childhood filled with adventures together, no matter how small, is what we (and they) will remember and cherish most. So leave those dishes in the sink, mama. Let the laundry pile up. I, for one, will applaud you for choosing adventure over perfection and for making the most of the time you have with your children.

    Live with them, adventure with them, listen to them. And let the chores wait.

    How are you living?
    Are you chasing perfection or prioritizing adventure? 

    About the author

    Anna is a mum of two energetic boys and the wife of Cezary. Before they started a family, they enjoyed backpacking and hitchhiking. Once the kids arrived, they adjusted their lifestyle and settled down in the beautiful Lake District, in the northwest of England. It’s often foggy and rainy where they live, but, they are outdoors in any weather. Anna is an ultramarathon runner, and Cezary loves triathlons, so, the children grow up being involved in hiking, trail running, cycling, all-year-round wild water swimming, and camping.

    Stefan is 12 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Antek is a neurotypical 10-year-old. Anna believes in positive psychology, in creating good moments and capturing memories. She believes being outdoors brings them together as a family and advocates for children with additional needs to be encouraged to explore and play outside. She trusts nature is a natural playground, enriches and stimulates the senses, and this is where she sees her children happiest. 

    You can find more from Anna in the following online location:
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  • Autism, Finding Happiness in Nature

    Autism is a developmental disorder that can affect communication, social interaction, and behavior in autistic individuals. Autistic children often struggle with sensory processing and can become overwhelmed in social situations or with disruptions in routines. However, spending time in nature and going on outdoor adventures can provide many benefits for autistic children. Today, Anna Stopinska-Lewucha, a UK mom of two, is sharing her family’s experience using nature and time outdoors to help her autistic son thrive.

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    Autism and the outdoors

    How often do you see children with developmental differences when you are outdoors? How many families with children with additional needs actively and purposefully make the most of their natural surroundings?

    I’m the mum of an awesome, adventurous, and autistic boy. Today, I want to give you an overview of what autism is, how spending time outside and in nature can benefit autistic kids, and encourage you to take your unique family outside and discover what nature has to offer. 

    What is autism?

    Autism is a life-long, neurodevelopmental condition. Every person diagnosed with autism experiences difficulties in communicating and interacting with the world and has repetitive patterns of behaviour and thought. Autistic people may also have different ways of learning, moving, or paying attention. 

    Core symptoms of autism, differences in sensory processing, and possible learning difficulties combine to create a plethora of difficulties in the everyday lives of autistic children and their families.

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    What autism means to our family

    Dear readers, I hope this gloomy and serious introduction to autism did not put you off, and I’m glad you’re still here reading.

    Let me take a minute for introductions. I’m Anna, and my older son, Stefan, is autistic.

    This means that the above description relates to Stefan, and his autism diagnosis is one which we have to accept and embrace. However, I’m here to tell you that our lives aren’t doom and gloom at all.  His diagnosis isn’t at either extreme – Stefan is not a boy locked in a glass dome, and neither is he an antisocial genius. He has severe learning difficulties, and his autistic presentations are complex. But he also is a little boy who loves trains, washing machines, and being outside.

    This post is about how nature makes him happy.

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    Our journey with autism

    Stefan’s autism was mentioned for the first time when he was two and a half years old. Once the professionals suggested that Stefan might be autistic, I went online and read all I could about the condition. Most of what I found was written in a negative tone. Yet, I was determined that our story would not be a negative one.

    I’ve experimented on Stefan more than I am comfortable admitting. Autism affects each person differently, meaning that autistic people have unique strengths and challenges and different treatment needs. I tried Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA), the Son-Rise programme, and some other treatments and programs I found on the internet to see if anything would make a difference. Unfortunately, I didn’t feel like any of it was doing us any good.

    So, I enrolled to do a degree in Autism at the University of Strathclyde to better understand what we were dealing with and how I could help my son. I struggled at the beginning of the course because it was all about impairments and deficits. But, eventually, we were given a bigger picture. We were told to consider what would be really important for an autistic person and what practical things we could do to improve their quality of life.

    walking along the stone wall

    Ditching therapies for outdoor play

    The course leader at the time, Dr. Anna Robinson, specialises in autistic welfare. While studying the well-being module, I found my path. I stopped searching for therapies and started looking at what makes my child happy.

    Outdoors was always a place where he could be himself. So, we started paying bigger attention to free play, muddy fun, and child-led exploration. And this is where our positive story began and our son began to thrive.

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    Accepting changes through outdoor activities 

    I remember our walks to and from Stefan’s preschool when he was little. They had to be exactly the same. He would insist on sameness and rebel if I wanted to change our route or anything about our walk.

    But, these walks had alterations as seasons changed and some degree of unpredictability (as happens in nature). Looking back, making a daily walk outdoors a part of our routine allowed some openness to changes because of the weather, time of the year, temperatures, and situations we encountered on our way home. Just experiencing nature as it changes, allowed Stefan to experience change on a level he could accept and handle. 

    a boy walking in the woods

    “Early years” day trips

    Stefan’s diagnostic path started when we moved home. We left a big city behind and moved to a tiny town in Cumbria, UK. Despite having a toddler and a baby, we wanted to discover new places and enjoy the vicinity of the sea and mountains.

    Our trips out were often short, but they brought us joy and gave us a good variety of experiences with Stefan. He loved running around and not being restricted in how he behaved and what he could do. Being outside gave him a newfound sense of freedom to explore his body and his surroundings. We found that choosing outdoors over indoors was more beneficial and brought more contentment for all of us.

    tow boys by the sea

    Getting outside the comfort zone

    Every day trip, our little out-of-the-town adventures, were taking Stefan away from places he was familiar with. I don’t think we realised back then how important this was for his development. Desensitising him to changes, obstacles, and different environments was challenging. However, putting him in new situations also evokes curiosity, which neurotypical children are naturally equipped with.

    Stefan, possibly, was curious about the world around him too, but he was very cautious. I don’t think his curiosity would come naturally to him had we not helped him overcome obstacles related to exploring new places and getting out of his routine. I believe he learned to enjoy exploring through these outings, rather than being born curious or with a desire to explore. Or maybe he was born to explore but had to be given tools to overcome his fears? Either way, we are proud that he found his way to be openly and happily curious. 

    Riding a toy tractor

    Spontaneity for outdoor adventures

    Getting outside and going on adventures allowed us more spontaneity. Usually, day trips and local walks were planned, and we always gave Stefan enough time to accept the fact that we were taking him somewhere.

    However, we also had moments when we would, for instance, arrange a quick trip to the seaside because the weather was lovely. A change of routine like this could be very difficult for some autistic children. But with time, he accepted non-planned outings and could be happy with the last-minute changes in plans. His love for the outdoors is bigger than his love for a set routine. 

    Walla Crag, family photo

    Mistakes and discomforts

    I don’t want to give you the wrong impression…we aren’t perfect parents. We make mistakes like everyone else. For example, last Easter, we went hiking and forgot water. We had a choice of turning round and going home, going to the nearest town and buying water, or going for a hike and drinking stream water (don’t try it yourselves – the water where you live might upset your stomach). The weather was glorious for the first time in ages, so, we went on! We drank stream water, hiked for four hours, and bagged three new peaks. It was worth it!

    As parents, we are often scared of making mistakes and experiencing discomfort. But, making mistakes show our children that life isn’t always perfect and teach them to look for solutions. Mistakes happen, but when we approach them as learning opportunities, not as failures or something we should escape from, we all benefit.

    on top of Skiddaw, Lake District

    Stefan’s sensory profile

    When Stefan was around three years old, we noticed that he started touching people whenever he was near them. He also ran his hand alongside fences and walls when we walked. He engaged in running and falling on his knees, on purpose.  He also liked running into walls and trees, at high speed, and bouncing off them, often falling. I was concerned that he would injure himself and didn’t understand the purpose of it. Then, I went to a talk that introduced me to proprioception and the vestibular system.

    boy by the sea

    Sensory processing differences

    Learning that we have more than five senses was a revelation to me. I also learned that the senses can be over-sensitive (too much input causes discomfort or pain) or under-responsive (a child is craving for more input). This can be compared to eating soup: too salty isn’t tasty, so we don’t want it, and not enough salt makes us want to add more salt. This was really eye-opening and made a lot of sense. However, I then learned that my child’s senses can be simultaneously under and over-sensitive. This was just too much. I didn’t understand how the same soup can be too salty one day and not salty enough another.

    Physiotherapy at playgrounds 

    In the UK, autistic families do not have the support of physiotherapists, unless their child’s mobility is seriously affected. In our case, another university lecture I attended brought us some answers we needed. The lecturer encouraged me to use children’s playgrounds as a form of physiotherapy, as playground equipment is designed to support children’s physical development.

    Playgrounds were not our favourite places. Stefan had a hard time with them because of the noise and all the other children. However, with therapy in mind, we looked for a playground that was quiet and often unoccupied and found one in a tiny village nearby. Always empty, it became a regular place to go after school and started using it as a form of physiotherapy. 

    playground fun

    Proprioception (body awareness) and autism

    Stefan’s intentional crashing and banging into things and his habit of touching people and walls, finally, had a word attached to them: proprioception. His proprioception was dysregulated. With this definition came an answer. We were told to push him hard on a swing, undertake rough play, play animal movements, wheelbarrow, jump on a trampoline, run, climb, and engage him in all activities referred to as “heavy work.” 

    We loved this task, and it made such a big difference for him. We continued making trips to our playground and started using nature with body awareness activities in mind. We would climb boulders at the seaside, climb trees, jump off small ledges, do a lot of silly running, rolling down hills, pushing, pulling, and exploring all animal walks. With time, it all paid off.

    Did you guess we had a lot of fun too? Yes, we did!

    seaside rock climbing

    Vestibular system (balance) and the outdoors

    From an early age, Stefan could spin around (for longer than I could watch) without ever feeling dizzy. He was never sick in a car. I’m the opposite; as an adult, I still experience travel sickness, and watching him spin caused me to get nauseous.

    I was told that spinning was a possible sign of autism and I just accepted it as such. Alongside improving Stefan’s body awareness, we worked on Stefan’s balance. As I mentioned before, physiotherapy wasn’t available to us, but I had guidance from one of my lecturers and took it upon myself to help him in this area.

    The outdoors was the perfect place to work on balance. We walked on every fallen tree, every stone wall, and up and down every hill. We walked in fallen leaves, in the snow, and over muddy squishy ground.

    And yes, it did pay off! And yes, it was fun!  Today, when I went for a bike ride with Stefan, and he was riding uphill, out of the saddle, I remember how unachievable this felt a couple of years ago…

    a boy on a rope

    Speech and language therapy (SLT) and the outdoors

    Stefan’s lack of communication was one of the red flags of autism when he was little. Not only did he not have speech (bilingualism was an excuse at the time), but he wasn’t interested in communicating with us or anybody else.

    However, when he was outside, he was happy and more relaxed. Stefan was often more responsive and more communicative outside than when indoors. Playing in nature often required our help, which he needed to indicate, and we often didn’t offer until he made an effort to interact. Being outside also gave us an opportunity to teach Stefan many, many words and introduce him to the concept of natural variety.

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    Learning through outdoor experiences

    When Stefan was first diagnosed with autism, we often worked on putting together two-piece jigsaw puzzles of animals. One of them was a brown cow. After a few days, Stefan learned to point at a cow when I asked him to. But then, I found a picture of a black cow, and he couldn’t understand the connection.

    Luckily, I had great support from his very enthusiastic SLT. Sarah encouraged me to incorporate as much as possible of Stefan’s language and communication learning in outdoor play rather than making it yet another living-room-arranged task. We moved our speech and language learning from our living room outside, and it was a great decision. That possibly made his learning more chaotic, but it was also more spontaneous and did bring the effect we wanted, eventually.

    Since then, we’ve made an effort to intentionally connect his learning to the outdoors. For example, when he was learning about waterfalls in school, we would go to see a real-life waterfall. When they learned map reading, we would go exploring at a local park with a map over the weekend.

    The school supported Stefan by keeping us up to date with their classroom topics, and we supported him by turning his classroom learning into an outdoor experience. Now Stefan is eleven years old, and while we don’t need to follow his school learning, we still believe that learning by doing and experiencing is the most meaningful to an autistic child. And we’ve personally seen it pay off. 

    kayaking

    Expanding food choices outside

    Like many autistic people, sensory processing differences narrow down Stefan’s food choices. However, we noticed that Stefan would be more likely to try new foods when we are out and about on trips or outdoor adventures. It’s an interesting concept we would never have realized unless we were outside and adventuring. 

    While this might not work for everyone, it works for him. He is more open to new options when he is tired and hungry after a hike. He accepts the fact that when we go camping, our food choices are limited, and we might not be able to cook his favourite food. And outdoors, he’s much more curious and willing to taste whatever we eat. 

    toasting marshmallows

    Fitness and health

    Although Stefan might not be as physically fit as his neurotypical peers, we believe that he is in good shape and health. Our active routine of everyday walks and hikes and day trips on weekends have all made him a resilient walker. We are out in any season and any weather.

    As a family, we also enjoy wild water swimming. I have to admit that Stefan only dips his feet in cold water in winter, but still does take part in our fun.  And even in summer, lakes in northern England are far from being warm.

    He also loves his weekly, train-spotting, out-of-town bike rides. He makes most of his trampoline and spends hours in our garden when the days are longer. His immune system is very healthy, and I think a lot of that is from all the time we spend outside.

    lake in winter, two people in water

    Building connection and trust outdoors

    Although I said earlier that Stefan isn’t a boy locked in a glass dome, I haven’t always believed that. When he was little, we felt that he was so distant from us, emotionally. Being in nature made Stefan more relaxed and happy. It also allowed us more interaction, and we found him more open to our support and guidance.

    Over the years, our outdoor adventures have shown us that Stefan wants to share his experience with us. Now, he often makes remarks about what he feels, sees, hears, or smells.

    Another thing we let him do is help us choose our walks or trip destinations. Following and being responsive to Stefan’s choices makes him more open to new experiences. And, all these experiences in the natural world are shared moments of joy that allow so much more connection and closeness with him than I could ever have imagined. seaside mud play

    Lessons learned from lockdown

    When schools shut down during the lockdowns, like many families, we switched to learning from home. Our homeschool experience was very successful. I had great guidance from Stefan’s school, and he had my (his private teacher at the time) full attention nearly all of the time (sharing only with his brother). His academic education went great. We also walked as much as was allowed and made the most of our garden. Stefan’s life was very structured and predictable.

    However, when we were allowed to explore again, Stefan’s perfectly structured world was ruined. He refused to get into the car and refused to go anywhere. He wanted his 100% predictable routine, his safety net, back. We had to start from scratch. It was very hard on all of us. 

    Inspiration came from an unlike place. I will be forever grateful to the parent of little Isaac, whose YouTube videos Stefan loved watching. The videos were about lifts in supermarkets, and a promise to visit the lifts was our best bribe to get Stefan out of the house again. Somehow, it worked.

    As the world was slowly opening up and expanding again, we cautiously went exploring. We quickly discovered that Stefan’s body forgot how to walk on unknown, uneven ground, how to run up and down hill,s and how to climb. It was a petrifying discovery. Luckily, with more outdoor adventures, he quickly adapted and soon was back on track. But, we’ve learned our lesson and now know that he needs to experience different terrains and environments frequently to keep his skills alive.

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    Outdoor recommendations for autistic families

    Every autistic child is unique. Each of them has its own set of differences and strengths. I understand that not every family might be able to use the outdoors to the extent we do. However, if you would like to try, below are some activities you and your child might enjoy.

    Garden/backyard activities

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    Exploring the wider world

    • Neighborhood walks – Little walks around your area should provide the safety of a known place and a bit of exercise. It can be easily adapted, changed, and expanded.
    • Woodland walks – Walks in the nearby woodland or forest are also great sensory experiences. A lot happens in the woods with changing seasons.
    • Visiting playgrounds – If your child finds them too noisy, our hack is to visit them early morning or late afternoon.
    • Stream paddling – Good fun in the water, great physical activity, and good for balancing.
    • Beach – Spending time at the beach is an amazing sensory experience: sifting sand through their fingers, walking barefoot, paddling in a sea, and being allowed carefree play would make many children happy.
    • Nighttime walk – We love little trips around the neighborhood or to our local woods at night. Torches off, senses on. It’s a really fun way to explore the same place in a new way. 
    • Rock climbing – We found a beach where nobody goes with lots of rocks to climb and play on. It’s fun, good for balance, and improves body movement and strength.
    • Camping – Our best holidays are camping holidays! If you are unsure how it will go, try camping in your back garden first.
    • Horse riding – This can be a bit pricey, but there is a long list of benefits.
    • Canoeing/kayaking – A great water activity that’s very physical and involved all the senses. 
    • Raft building – We are currently collecting milk bottles to build our own raft this summer.
    • Cycling – It took us a long time to convince Stefan to pedal. First, he had a tricycle. After a few years on trike, Stefan learned how to use a bicycle, and it brings him a lot of joy.
    • Geocaching – Real-life treasure hunting with your phone! This is an absolute hit with our family. 
    • Rolling down dunes/hills – Great physiotherapy and lots of fun! 
    • I-Spy books – These are themed and motivate kids to finding new things and pay more attention to their surroundings.
    • Hiking – Great outdoor physical activity with tons of variety and options. 
    • Farm visits – Visiting a working farm is a great way to experience a new place. Our favourite is an ice cream farm.
    • Forest bathing – A visit to a forest can do wonders. Some places have sculpture trails or children trails.
    • Kite flying – Cheap and cheerful entertainment for hours.
    • Bonfire – Gathering wood and having an open fire (if allowed in your area).
    • Winter play – Sledding and having a snowball fight.
    • Building a snowman – And, of course, drinking hot chocolate afterward.
    • Crabbing –  It’s amazing how much fun you can have with a piece of bacon and a crabbing net.
    • Foraging – Finding berries is what my children love: blackberries, raspberries, and wild strawberries are easy to find and delicious.
    • Orienteering – With a help of an adult, children can navigate a map and find checkpoints.
    • Fishing – A great way to keep kids outside and entertained for hours. 

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    Useful literature and websites

    Your local public library will also have a shelf with factual books for children, including literature that encourages nature and outdoor play. A trip to a local library could be an adventure in itself.

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    Taking autistic children outdoors

    The natural world has plenty to offer to our autistic children. We hope that this article would inspire you to spend more time outdoors and find what makes your child happiest.

    Are you and your autistic child exploring and having fun in nature?

    About the author

    Anna is a mum of two energetic boys and the wife of Cezary. Before they started a family, they enjoyed backpacking and hitchhiking. Once the kids arrived, they adjusted their lifestyle and settled down in the beautiful Lake District, in the northwest of England. It’s often foggy and rainy where they live, but, they are outdoors in any weather. Anna is an ultramarathon runner, and Cezary loves triathlons, so, the children grow up being involved in hiking, trail running, cycling, all-year-round wild water swimming, and camping. Stefan is 11 years old and has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Antek is a neurotypical 9-year-old. Anna believes in positive psychology, in creating good moments and capturing memories. She believes that being outdoors brings them together as a family and advocates for children with additional needs to be encouraged to explore and play outside. She trusts nature is a natural playground, enriches and stimulates the senses, and this is where she sees her children happiest.

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