Jen Barnes

FAMILY TRAVEL, OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, PARENTING
Best Outdoorsy Mother-Daughter Getaways in the Southeast US
- November 15, 2023
It can be so difficult to carve out one-on-one time with our daughters. The daily activities and schedules creep in and take over. Our lives get hectic, and before we know it, our connection to our daughters begins to diminish. Oftentimes, the answer is to move away from the grind and purposely make time to rekindle that connection. One great way to do that is through an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway. Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mom, and travel agent (specializing in family travel with teenagers), is going to showcase four top-notch destinations for outdoorsy mother-daughter getaways in the Southeast US area. Each location has its own special way for mamas and daughters to reconnect.

The importance of mother-daughter getaways

The bond between mothers and daughters is a unique and profound connection that shapes a woman’s identity and influences her throughout her life. Spending quality time together with my daughter is necessary for us to have a deep, meaningful relationship. But quality time can be hard to come by at home, when we’re both pulled in a million different directions and dealing with the distractions of daily life.

However, one of the best things we’ve decided to do for us, is to get away every now and then. Our mother-daughter getaways give us a special opportunity to escape the grind and give us time to focus on each other without distractions. This time helps us foster open communication and understanding. It also gives us shared experiences that contribute to our memory banks.

A getaway provides an environment conducive to heartfelt conversations and storytelling. These trips are also a source of joy, laughter, and relaxation. We get to explore, try new things, eat amazing food, relax, and laugh (a lot). Creating memories together in a new place strengthens the foundation of our relationship.

Make the getaway intentional

Intentional conversation

What I mean when I say to make the getaway intentional is to go into the getaway with some ways you plan to connect with your daughter. Think about the questions you want to ask her and the topics you’d like to discuss. I always like to have several fun questions and several serious questions at the ready so when the opportunity for conversation arises, I am prepared.

I think this is more important as your kids get older and tend to be less of an “open book” than younger kids are. Teens and tweens are dealing with much bigger issues these days and conversation can sometimes be hard to come by. However, you have probably noticed that when you are outside together with your kid(s), that conversation flows more freely. Without the distraction of a screen or household chores keeping you busy, you and your daughter can focus on each other. You will learn about her, and she will learn about you.

Intentional activities

Also, be intentional about where you go and what you’ll do there. Consider what she will enjoy on the getaway. If ice cream is your daughter’s favorite dessert, find a local spot. Bring along her favorite game for an evening activity. Choose a destination with activities that she likes to do.

My daughter loves to dress fancy, so I always try to plan a dinner at a finer dining restaurant on our getaways so she could fancy up a little bit for one night. There is no need to overindulge, but I think recognizing her personality and indulging in her interests, even if it isn’t your preference, can really go a long way.

Come up with some ideas to make it a special time for the two of you. Create some bonding moments that only you share. Try something new together or get outside of your comfort zone together. Those will become core memories for both of you.

Expectations for your mother-daughter getaway

Give yourself a pep talk about expectations for your trip before you go. And be realistic. If you are doing this mother-daughter getaway during the pre-teen or teen years, make sure you give your daughter plenty of notice, include her in the planning, and tell her how excited you are to get away together.

Have an open and honest conversation about the getaway with your daughter well before the trip. Discuss the purpose of the trip (whether it’s for relaxation, bonding, adventure, or a combination of these), and encourage your daughter to express her expectations and desires for the getaway as well. Discuss the itinerary, potential excursions, or any specific plans you have in mind. Be flexible and open to incorporating activities that interest both of you. This way, you can ensure that the trip aligns with both your expectations.

And be prepared for hard conversations and possibly hearing things that surprise you. Sometimes, the discussions can get intense. I caution you (from my own experience!) to refrain from lecturing and correcting during this time away. Do your best to let your daughter guide the direction and let it flow organically.

Why choose an outdoorsy location for your getaway?

I’d love to encourage you, when deciding on a destination for your getaway, to consider choosing an outdoorsy location. Spending time together outside can be such a transformative and enriching experience. Plus, you’ll foster a deeper connection through shared outdoor adventures and the beauty of nature.

Whether it’s a serene beach, a picturesque mountain retreat, or a charming countryside escape, being surrounded by nature creates an ideal setting for bonding and creating lasting memories. And outdoor environments offer a recharging break from the routine of daily life.

Spending time together outside not only promotes physical and mental well-being but also creates bonding through shared activities and experiences. From hiking and biking to exploring local landmarks or simply enjoying a picnic with a scenic view, outdoor adventures offer a wide range of opportunities for quality time and meaningful conversations.

I firmly believe that your getaway should be outdoor-focused or nature-based. This does not mean that you need to be camping, hiking, or backpacking. Being in nature doesn’t have to mean “roughing it.” If you and your daughter love that, then do it. But, even if you and your daughter don’t consider yourselves “outdoorsy,” there is still a lot of merit in getting outside.

I said it earlier, but I will say it again. The outdoors fosters openness and conversation. It literally breathes life into us. When we set aside the technology and the screens, our minds and bodies relax. The environment is set for making connections. The quiet moments in the woods or on the water allow our brains to see things more clearly. The noise and distraction are turned off so that we can be creative and dream and rest. This should be a time of connection and restoration.

Top 5 outdoorsy mother-daughter getaways in the Southeast US

There isn’t one outdoorsy destination that is perfect for your mother-daughter getaway. However, I found four incredible options and would highly recommend all of them. I encourage you to choose a destination that your daughter is interested in, and that works for your budget.

(And because I hope your getaway won’t be a one-time occasion, perhaps you could start a list of options for now and the future. My own daughter loves the idea of making a list of places to experience together.)

1. Sky Ridge Yurts in Bryson City, NC

The Sky Ridge Yurts in Bryson City, North Carolina, are luxury yurts in a perfectly positioned location, for an amazing glamping experience. Located right outside of Bryson City, NC, which is a gateway city to Great Smoky Mountains National Park, you’ll have easy access to the entire area. You will go to sleep and wake up with nature all around you, but you won’t be giving up any of the conveniences or comforts of your own home.

Each yurt is outfitted with an indoor bathroom, stocked kitchen, small living area, and comfy bed. The outdoor porches and Solo Stove give you an extension for outside fun, too. Enjoy your morning coffee while you take in the views, and end your evening with a campfire.

Glamping, adventure, and access to a national park

Sky Ridge is also located within a few minutes of Nantahala Outdoor Center, where you can have a little adventure together. White water rafting on the Nantahala and Chattooga Rivers is a thrilling activity offered from March to October. You can zipline through the forest and have views of the Nantahala Gorge and Great Smoky Mountains National Park as you soar high above the trees. Or, you can rent mountain bikes or sign up for a guided mountain bike tour on Flint Ridge.

You will definitely want to explore Great Smoky Mountains National Park while you are in the area. There are viewpoints, hikes, places to river tube, and more. You can make this a day trip or spend a week here. There is so much to see and do, and you could end up driving quite a bit. The Great Smoky Mountain Railroad, which includes the Polar Express holiday special, is not to be missed if you’re looking for a quintessential experience.

2. The Inn at Serenbe in Chattahoochee Hills, GA

The Inn at Serenbe in Chattahoochee Hills, Georgia, is a historic family farm that has been turned into a luxury retreat. The inn and entire community of rental homes and cottages will accommodate any need. This getaway location is perfectly situated outside of the major metro area of Atlanta in the rolling hills of the countryside. You will be just 20 minutes from the airport but will feel worlds away during your stay. The 1000-acre grounds offer trails, horseback riding, an outdoor animal village, outdoor games, and open spaces to enjoy nature.

Horses, food, massages, and bonfires

At the Inn, everything you need is within walking distance or a golf cart ride away. The Inn is relaxed-luxury with lovely rooms. You can also rent a small cottage or home in the Serenbe community area. If your daughter has an interest in horses, this would be an incredible destination, with the opportunity to ride. Hiking trails starting from the inn will lead to a few waterfalls on the property, as well as a labyrinth in the forest. Don’t miss the in-ground trampoline, the bikes, the animal village, or the pool. No matter the age of your daughter, you will not run out of fun things to do outdoors.

There are also several options for food. The buffet farm breakfast was a winner! It is located in the prettiest windowed room. We also indulged in a delicious dinner at The Hill the previous night. We saw families, groups of girlfriends, couples, and of course, us-the mother-daughter duo. There is no doubt that a long weekend OR a week would be so much fun here, and you never need to leave the property. For a really special treat, visit the spa together and do a mother-daughter massage in their shared massage room. My daughter was so excited to include this in our getaway. Although spa time is not outside, it is a special time together. Do it!

The Inn at Serenbe also hosts events like farm tours, evening bonfires, goat yoga, hayrides, live music on the porch, and community events throughout the year. This is one of those places that has all the amenities of a resort but feels much more like a homestay in the very best way. I can’t emphasize enough the relaxed ambience with all the high-end options. If you want an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway that incorporates nature and relaxation, this is the perfect spot.

3. Treetop Hideaways at Ruby Falls in Chattanooga, TN

Is there any more perfect way to do an outdoor-focused getaway than to sleep up in the trees? I don’t think so!

Treetop Hideaways has done an incredible job of creating a beautiful, functional, fun space to reconnect. This boutique treehouse retreat is so special because it has that notion of being rustic, but lacks nothing in terms of comfort. From the moment you enter your treehouse, you will notice the details of playful design combined with intentional, sustainable systems. They have thought of everything.

Twinkle lights, lookouts, surrounded by nature

If you choose this destination (and it should be on your list), give yourself plenty of time to relax on the porches with a book while you listen to the record player and soak it all in. There is a firepit for each treehouse for evening fun and conversation. Wood, a fire starter, and a wagon to transport it all are provided for you. All of the walkways have twinkle lights, making the whole site feel magical.

Treetop Hideaways is located just 12-15 minutes from downtown Chattanooga, Tennessee. There are restaurants galore to choose from and many of them have outdoor seating options. If you want to give yourself more time to enjoy the treehouse, simply order takeout. Chattanooga is a city that lives on the river, so it is primed for outdoor fun. You can rent e-bikes and use them on the trails and roadways all around the city. There are places nearby to hike and explore, such as Lookout Mountain. Ruby Falls is a series of underground waterfalls, cavern trails, and caves. This is located just below the treehouses!

4. The Sanctuary on Kiawah Island, SC

This 5-star luxury property is located on Kiawah Island outside of Charleston, SC. The Sanctuary Resort provides the perfect destination for outdoorsy mother-daughter fun. The Sanctuary at Kiawah Island Golf Resort is a stay that should be on everyone’s wish list. There is no doubt that you will indulge in the delicious food and the super comfy hotel rooms, but there is so much beauty here that most of your time will be spent outside.

Beaches, bikes, and kayaking

The Sanctuary has a beautiful swimming pool and an incredible beach. Honestly, you could spend your entire stay just doing that and get your outside hours. I fully support at least one day of soaking in the sunshine and the salt air, playing in the ocean waves, and otherwise lounging the day away. If you are looking for more activity, though, it won’t be hard to find.

The Sanctuary can help you reserve bicycles to ride the numerous paths all throughout the island. Pro tip: do this early in the morning or after the sun goes down to avoid the heat in spring, summer, and early fall months.

There are world-class golf courses for those of you who have daughters who are interested in golf! If your daughter is more interested in court time, check out the fabulous tennis center to reserve a court or to take a pickleball clinic.

If you want to go deeper into nature or wildlife, I highly recommend doing a kayak tour on the Kiawah River. We had a glorious guided kayak tour one morning where we learned all about the flora and fauna of the Lowcountry of South Carolina. It was so peaceful paddling and bird watching. Our big surprise was a mama and baby dolphin that swam right past us as we were returning to the launch site. Core memory!

Why get away outside?

From my own personal experience, I find that time outside together fosters an openness that is difficult to replicate somewhere else. The distractions of shopping, city sites, and shows don’t quite seem to provide the space to really decompress and relate to one another. Statistics show that time in fresh air allows our brains to relax and rest. Because that’s not our natural daily rhythm, when we do allow that, and we do it together, there is deep bonding.

Gratitude is also a natural outpouring of time outside. In a world that is constantly telling us “more, more, more,” the outdoors helps us to realize that we truly have so much to be grateful for. And when we do this with our daughters, it reminds us that we have so much WITH each other. Simply setting aside those screens for a short time will bring everything back into focus and show us what is important.

The beauty of our natural world is so inspiring. Taking time together outside will also give our daughters an opportunity to think creatively. They will see new things and exposure to new things will aid in their development.

When should you do an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway?

I believe there is merit to doing a mother daughter getaway at any age. But before you go crazy, make sure you take into consideration the activities offered in the destination you are considering. Some may lend themselves to a more appropriate age. I would also involve your daughter in the planning, especially if she is a teenager. The more influence she has, the more she will buy into the experience.

As our daughters grow older, the time we get to spend with them starts to shrink. I aim to do a mother-daughter getaway every other year. That gives us something to look forward to and time to plan something special. If that seems like too much, then aim for an age marker that stands out, like a sweet 16 or 12 when girlhood is at a pivotal point.

When will you plan your next outdoorsy mother-daughter getaway?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
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OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, PARENTING, TEENS
Teen Mental Health and Nature
- May 22, 2023
In today’s fast-paced, socially distant, yet hyperconnected world, the mental well-being of teenagers is facing an alarming crisis. The prevalence of anxiety, stress, and other mental health challenges among adolescents has reached unprecedented levels, casting a dark shadow over their formative years. As parents, it can be scary to consider the statistics, but it’s also imperative that we delve into the depths of this issue and explore potential remedies that can bring hope and relief. One of those being the great outdoors. Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mother to three teens, will shed light on the daunting state of teen mental health, and unveil the transformative power of spending time outside in nature as a vital antidote to anxiety and stress, igniting a path towards healing, resilience, and personal growth.

Using nature as a tool

I have three teens of my own, and I am around adolescents day in and day out. And like you, I even have experience as a teenager myself. While I am not a doctor, nor do I have any training in the mental health field, I have observations, experiences, and anecdotes that tell me this fact…teens need nature.

Teen mental health and nature have a connection. Spending time in nature can have a significant impact on teen mental health. Nature is not the only solution, but it is a powerful tool in our parenting toolbox that we can use to help our children.

We all have a deep-rooted need within us to let go and be free. Free of social constraints, free from school/household responsibilities, and free to be ourselves. Nature and outside time can give that to our teens. This post will show the reality of teen mental health today, ways nature can be an aid, and how-to solutions to help your teens through it all.

Teen mental health today

While I do not want to scare or intimidate you with statistics on the dire state of teen mental health, they are necessary to understand some of why teens are experiencing debilitating diagnoses and daily mental health struggles. Strong mental health is vital to the development of everyone, but it is especially poignant during the adolescent years as teens mature both physically and emotionally.
- Over 2.7 million youth report severe major depression.
- 22% of high school students in a recent survey said they have seriously considered suicide in the past year.
- 25% of teens have a mental health diagnosis from a professional (and this does not include teens who are either too scared to seek help or do not have access to help).
Factors affecting teen mental health

Every organization involved in teen mental health reports that these statistics are on the rise dramatically. And while there is no one single thing we can blame these statistics on, there are several that come to mind and have been cited time and again. Understanding these significant factors that impact teen mental health is crucial in developing effective strategies and interventions to support and nurture their well-being.

Screens

First, we live in an era dominated by screens. The ubiquitous presence of social media platforms has transformed the way teens interact and perceive themselves. The constant exposure to curated online personas, cyberbullying, and social comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, isolation, and low self-esteem.

Performance pressure

The pressure to excel academically (or athletically, or extra-circularly), secure scholarships, win games, and gain admission to prestigious institutions has intensified for teenagers. Teens often experience immense stress, anxiety, and burnout due to the high expectations placed upon them.

Traumatic experiences

Teens may experience traumatic events such as physical or emotional abuse, neglect, bullying, or loss. These experiences can have long-lasting effects on their mental health, leading to conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or depression. In addition, in the U.S. significantly, we have teenagers that go to school every day, fearing that another school shooting has taken place or will take place.

All of these factors have a tendency to draw anyone inward, but especially teenagers who are still immature in their coping mechanisms and emotional development. It’s on us as parents to help them through this.

Teen mental health and screens

It is almost impossible to have a conversation on teen mental health without talking about screens and the content our teens are consuming on those screens.

Access to adult content

The entertainment and media options available to teens are endless. No, it’s not all evil…but it’s not all good, either. The sheer amount of access to adult content available at their fingertips is unfathomable to most parents. In today’s digital age, explicit material is just a few clicks away, blurring the lines between what is appropriate for adult consumption and what is suitable for impressionable minds.

Exposure to adult content at an early age can have detrimental effects on teens’ cognitive development, self-image, and understanding of healthy relationships. Such content often portrays unrealistic and harmful representations of sexuality, leading to distorted perceptions, confusion, and a distorted sense of self. It can fuel feelings of inadequacy, body shaming, and pressure to conform to unrealistic standards.

Social media

Let me give you my hot take on social media. Not only does social media demand the attention of our teens, but it demands their loyalty. Every time a teen scrolls he/she is told, “You, too, should be a beautiful person with a beautiful life…and here’s how you do it right.” In a world that preaches individualism, there sure is a lot of conformity that is expected. So, in an effort to conform, they go back to the social media that informs them on how to do it. Constant exposure to social media platforms can fuel a cycle of comparison, where teens measure their worth based on carefully curated highlight reels of their peers. This constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and a distorted self-image.

The addictive nature of social media further exacerbates the problem, with excessive screen time replacing real-life social interactions and adversely affecting sleep patterns. The pressure to gain likes, followers, and virtual validation can create a constant sense of anxiety and a fear of missing out (FOMO). Additionally, cyberbullying, (hurtful comments, rumors, and public shaming) can inflict deep emotional scars.

Social media can make teens less social

Paradoxically, as these kids are deeply connected to their screens, they are more socially disconnected than ever. The rise of social media platforms has led to a concerning trend of teenagers becoming less socially engaged in the offline world. While these platforms promise to connect individuals, they often contribute to a decrease in face-to-face interactions and genuine human connections.

Social media can create a false sense of socialization, where likes, comments, and emojis substitute for meaningful conversations and authentic interactions. But, adolescents need peer face-to-face interaction. They need to argue and affirm in real life, not with keyboard courage or placating phrases. They need to be able to observe and read body language and facial cues so that they can understand emotions and reactions. These interactions provide a unique and irreplaceable opportunity for young individuals to learn, grow, and navigate the complexities of the world around them. They also help teenagers to develop essential social skills such as empathy, communication, and conflict resolution.

Social media shows teens what they’re missing

Furthermore, social media has the ability to make teens feel very left out and lonely when they see their friends and schoolmates posting about their activities. Remember how you and I were often blissfully unaware if other friends got together to go to a movie and you weren’t invited? That does not exist anymore. If a few kids hang out, everyone else will know about it when they Snapchat photos. You can even find them all in the same location on snap maps. Naturally, those not invited feel left out and rejected. With girls, this scenario may play out for weeks as gossip, jealousy, and competition can ensue. Of course, these have always been a part of social life, but with screens, it is all instantaneous, and everyone knows.

Teen expectations and exhaustion

Teens also have mental fatigue. We are asking for more and more output academically, physically, and mentally than ever before. Parents often place significant pressure on teenagers to excel academically and perform well in sports, inadvertently leading to negative consequences for their mental and emotional well-being. We are telling them they need to perform harder, faster, stronger, and more adeptly than most of them are ready for. This pressure to perform can create a constant state of stress, anxiety, and fear of failure in our teenagers. They may feel overwhelmed, burnt out, and experience a loss of motivation and joy in learning or playing sports/games they used to love.

Oftentimes, we simultaneously let them off the hook in their character development and pursuit of personal growth at the expense of performance pressure. The relentless pursuit of academic success can lead to a narrow focus on grades rather than fostering a love for learning and personal growth. The demand for excellence in one sport may keep kids from trying new sports or discovering new passions, interests, and hobbies. The constant drive for athletic achievement can also result in physical exhaustion, injuries, and mental burnout.

A generational shift in stress

A recent study showed that 64% of teens report feeling the world is more stressful than when their parents were their age. This increased perception of stress has profound implications for their overall well-being and development. It suggests that teenagers are grappling with unique challenges and pressures that previous generations did not face to the same extent.

The modern world is characterized by rapid technological advancements, increasing academic competitiveness, social media influence, economic uncertainties, and global issues like climate change. These factors, among others, contribute to a heightened sense of pressure, uncertainty, and overwhelm for teenagers.

As parents, we hope that we’re giving our kids the best and making things easier for them than we had, but that doesn’t seem to be the case, according to many teens. There has been a generational shift, and we need to pay attention.

How nature plays a positive role in teen mental health

In a world where teenagers grapple with mounting pressures and the constant bombardment of technology, finding solace and respite in nature has become more crucial than ever. Nature has an inherent ability to heal and restore, offering a sanctuary away from the stresses and anxieties of daily life. Here are some positive benefits of spending time outside that teenagers desperately need.

Sense of calmness

One of the great benefits of nature for teens is the sense of calm it offers. In a world that is adamant to gain teens’ attention with extreme noise and flashes of glitter, nature lets their minds rest. And as their minds rest, their nervous system can relax. Anxiety is reduced as their brains take a break from the worries and cares and instead go blank.

This calmness can be experienced in a simple walk around the neighborhood or a picnic at the park. As I have personally encouraged my own teens to take a break outside, they are now implementing it themselves. I have even heard them say they crave time in nature. When they experience the sense of calmness that nature can provide, they want “the calm”!

Confidence and self-esteem

Another benefit for teens is how nature can play a part in building confidence and boosting self-esteem. My friend Tiphini says that “the biggest perk we’ve seen from pushing our teens to spend time out in nature is an unexpected boost in self-confidence. Whether they are on a multi-day paddle across Lake Superior, navigating moguls on a black diamond run, working to conquer a new mountain bike trail, or pushing themselves up the side of a mountain — they know they can do hard things. They recognize they are capable, and in the tumultuous teen years, this is something pretty special.”

Nature provides a nurturing environment that encourages exploration, self-discovery, and personal growth. When teenagers spend time outside in nature, they are exposed to new challenges. And when they overcome their obstacles, they develop a sense of accomplishment and a belief in their abilities. Moreover, being in nature promotes a break from social comparisons and judgments, providing teenagers with an opportunity to embrace their individuality and build confidence in who they are.

Gratitude

Recently, I have been learning more about blue mind science. This is the scientific proof that spending time on, in, or near water has a positive effect on our bodies, including our mental health. Cited as one of the byproducts of blue time is awe and gratitude. There is a shift from self-focus to recognizing a larger world beyond themselves. The depths of the sea and the sea life within open up their minds to things how many things are possible, and all the things undiscovered. It’s inspiring rather than stifling.

Stress relief

As noted above, there are physiological responses that aid in mental health as well. Studies show that nature is an antidote to stress. Some of the physical responses determined by scientific data are lower blood pressure and stress hormone levels, an enhanced immune system function, a reduction in anxiety, and an improved mood. Anyone would benefit from these things, but with the added pressures teens face, these could be game changers for their daily lives.

Focus

When a teenager’s mind is relaxed, they are able to focus better, as well. When my teenagers are studying, I encourage them to take a break by going for a walk or a bike ride outside to clear their heads, get some fresh air, and physical activity. All these things have been linked to increased focus, a boost in creativity, and battery memory retention.

Time in nature can also foster exceptional creativity by allowing stimuli to push a teen into hyper-awareness. Moving away from “noise” allows their minds to go blank and hone in on some pretty fantastic creativity and purpose. As distractions are eliminated, a teen can see their direction more clearly and discern what gives him/her joy.

Connection

As a mom, one of the greatest benefits of nature in a teen’s life is the way it plays a part in our connection to each other as a family. Without the pull of screens, time in nature gives me the opportunity to really talk to my teens. Without fail, times in nature are the times when my teens open up and talk about the things that matter to them. Nature gives them a place to express themselves and let them be true to themselves.

How to use nature as a nurturer in the life of your teens

Telling your teens they need nature and “go outside” won’t really work. Telling teens anything has little effect. Instead, one method that works for our family is to model what it looks like to use nature to aid in mental health. Show your teens that taking a walk along the river or even a day in the woods to yourself is a great way to alleviate stress. Let your kids see you revert to nature when you need a break, and use outdoor time as a way to self-soothe and regulate your stress and emotions.

In addition, here are some ways you can incorporate more time outside with your teens.

Keep it simple

If outside time is new to your teens, you may want to start with simple solutions. Serve family dinner outdoors one night. Start taking the dog for a walk in the neighborhood together every day. Pack a picnic for lunch at a local park. Set up a hammock in the backyard and make it a reading/resting spot. Your teen does not need to be “outdoorsy” or climb mountains to spend time in nature. Fresh air and sunshine in your own backyard can do so much to relax and reset.

Try new things outside

If your teens don’t particularly have a passion or interest, this can be a great excuse to explore some new outside activities. I have found that exposure often drives teens toward nature as they find new things they try and enjoy. Fishing, surfing, sailing, trail running, and mountain biking are all ideas to let your teens give a try. When they have an activity that brings them joy, they are more likely to seek out that time in nature on their own.

Let your teen lead the way

I know this can be scary, but teens are moving toward adulthood, and independence — they crave it. Give your teen the opportunity to choose and plan something that excites them. Rock climbing may not be your idea of fun, but if it is something your teen wants to explore and it gets them outside, why would you stand in the way? If snowboarding is an outlet for your teen to burn off stress, don’t you want to encourage that? The bottom line here is to let them have an idea and then let them find a plan to make it happen.

Encourage your teens to invite friends

There is no denying that teens function in peer groups, and the pack mentality is strong during the adolescent years. In a post-covid world, though, there is less emphasis on face-to-face interactions. Use outdoor time as a way to help your teens reconnect with their peers. Activities in nature are an easy way to gather groups together for fun. River tubing, bonfires, frisbee golf, beach games, cliff/waterfall jumping, and campouts bring teens together and give them the freedom to have fun and connect together in nature.

The connection between teen mental health and nature

I hope I have made the case for the connection that exists between teen mental health and nature. My own teens tell me (and their friends) they need time outside. I recently overheard my teenage daughter on the phone with a friend talking about feeling like she was drowning in schoolwork and responsibilities. She admitted that she just wanted to get outside and take a hike…preferably in Washington state, where there was no cell service. (Note: a few summers ago, we hiked in Olympic National Park, and I guess she realized how wonderful it really was to disconnect and be free from the daily grind. That trip paid off!)

It made me so happy to hear her realize that getting outside and into nature was her first response to stress and her go-to coping mechanism. That has been my goal, to give my teens an awareness of their mental health state and to provide them with a solution to help them cope. Getting outside helps them get back to a renewed place, ready to face the next challenge in life.

How do you help your teen get outside?
Do you feel it helps?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes
FISH, OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, WATER
The “We Try New Things” Mindset
- April 24, 2023
As parents, we want our children to grow up to be confident, adventurous, and open-minded about the world around them. One way to instill these qualities in our kids is by teaching them the importance of (and benefits from) trying new things. Children (and adults) often shy away from unfamiliar activities, foods, or experiences out of fear of the unknown. However, encouraging them to step outside their comfort zones and try new things can lead to a world of possibilities!

Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mom of three teenagers discusses her family’s mindset of “we try new things.” She touches on why it’s essential for parents to not only teach their children about trying new things, but also to be willing to try right alongside them! By trying new things, we can foster a sense of curiosity and adventure in our children, and prepare them for a lifetime of growth and learning.

My “aha” moment

What started out as a fun day excursion turned into an “aha moment” for me. I thought I was going to write an article about crabbing with kids in the Lowcountry of South Carolina. But that’s not really what this is about. Interestingly, this post morphed in my mind into the idea of writing about a mindset that I feel is imperative to raising confident, capable kids – the “we try new things mindset.”

As the mom, I set the example for my kids. And while trying new things isn’t always at the top of my priority list, I don’t want my kids to be fearful or unwilling to try something new. I want them to be excited to discover, explore, learn, and embrace the unknown. I want them to be curious and up for a challenge.

But that means that I have to practice what I preach! If I’m going to encourage my children to give something new a try, I’m going to have to do it too. I need to show them that it’s never too late to learn new things…even in your 40s. They need to see that it’s hard for me, too. They need to see me struggle. They have to see me nervous. And they have to see me get through it and feel the experience is worth it.
So, let me tell you about a recent adventure…

Trying new things…crabbing

A few months ago, I reached out to a special woman who I had been following on Instagram for about a year. Tia Clark was showcasing her crabbing experiences on the docks of Charleston, SC, and I was enamored. What a great idea for kids to learn how to do something quintessentially coastal!

Crabbing seemed like the perfect outdoor activity to try with the kids and write about. The combination of outside time, sea life, and spending quality time with my teenager was going to make for the perfect writing assignment.

You don’t know what you don’t know

6:00 a.m. came very early on our day off school, but we had to hit the road so we could get down to the lowcountry in time for our crabbing lesson with Tia. I had my 14-year-old son and his best buddy with me, ready for our crabbing adventure.

The first question they had was what we were going to do with Tia. Honest answer – I had no idea. We were going crabbing…that was all I knew! Sometimes it’s hard not to know the answers when your kids ask questions. But, you don’t know what you don’t know. However, you can always learn by trying something new!

I knew that I had to bring a South Carolina saltwater fishing license with me, but I wasn’t even sure what that meant. As a group, we later learned the money that comes from the licenses goes directly to partner organizations that are tangibly working to improve the waterways of South Carolina. For example, the SCORE program allows volunteers to help build manufactured wire reefs, which assist in habitat enhancement and shoreline stabilization. See! We were already learning something new!

You never know where trying new things will lead you

When we arrived at the docks to meet up with Art (Tia’s best friend and team member), we put our extra layers on to brace ourselves against the chilly wind. As we introduced ourselves, it become obvious that not one person in the group had ever been crabbing before. Looks like we were all trying new things on that Monday morning!

Tia and her team began to describe and explain what we should expect that morning. She wove in her own personal journey to the crabbing docks. After years of working in the restaurant and bar scene, putting in late hours, smoking cigarettes, and generally not taking care of herself, her health began to take a very negative turn. The lack of sleep and overall neglect had caught up with her body and her mind. Her previous working conditions became even more difficult with a restricted diet and new medical advice.

It turns out that a simple invitation can change the course of your life. In Tia’s case, that is exactly what happened. A family member asked her to join him on the docks to do some crabbing. Ironically, although Tia had been born and raised in Charleston, SC, she had never been crabbing before.

Guess what…she loved it. She not only loved being outside, but she caught her own healthy dinner! So, she went back and did it again. And again. What began as an invitation to try something new became a central part of her life.

Before she knew it, people were asking her to take them along to teach them how to crab. Her passion and enthusiasm are infectious. She even got the two teenage boys to invest!

Results of the “we try new things” mindset

We absolutely loved our crabbing experience and learned so much. However, I’m sure it won’t surprise you that we are not starting our own crabbing business! The best part about trying new things is that you get to test out what you may or may not become genuinely interested in for future hobbies or passions. How would you ever know whether you like doing something if you never try it?

We sincerely hope to go crabbing again because it is such a fun family activity, especially for those who live on or near the coast. The knowledge we gained was useful in giving us the confidence to do it again on our own.

Using travel and trips to try new things

We love using travel as a way to put our “we try new things” mindset work! There’s always something new and interesting to try when you’re in a new location. Sometimes it takes a bit of research and planning, but it’s worth the extra effort.

On our travels, we’ve tried other new things like surfing, food tours, walking tours, snorkeling excursions, fishing charters, art tours, museum tours, cooking classes, and others. Each of these experiences left an impression, taught us things, and provided us with amazing memories. Every time we try new things, we build up bravery and confidence in our children. We give them the courage to realize that trying new things, while sometimes scary, is also really fun.

You don’t have to love the new things you try

But let me say, that just because you try something new doesn’t mean you need to love it and continue doing it. You can try fly fishing without it needing to become your next hobby. You can try surfing and decide it’s just not the sport for you!

I often think about some of the interests my kids and I have had over the years. Those interests developed because we tried new things and gave ourselves a chance to experience something new. And there are plenty of things that we’ve tried once and never feel like we need to do again! But we’re still glad we tried.

The biggest lesson, though, is that you are not stuck. You’re not too old to try new things. You can try new things at any point in life, so why not teach your kids early in life to have this mindset?

A note about trying new things with a guide

I want to give a little plug to booking tours, guides, and excursions. If you want to try something new, please consider booking a guide or a tour, or an excursion with local experts that know what they’re doing and can teach you. This is how these people make a living, and it contributes to the local economy. They are usually experts in their activity and not only know what they’re doing but know how to teach others. They have local expertise and experience that will help enrich your experience well beyond trying this new thing on your own. What better way to try new things than to have someone who is a professional teach you how to do them?

Other adventures to inspire you to try new things
- Next winter, why not try cross-country skiing or downhill skiing?
- As spring temps arrive, how about trying mountain biking, golf, or fly fishing?
- This summer, I know you will be looking for ways to cool down, so why not try kayaking, or stand-up paddleboarding, or surfing?
- Want a super unique adventure? How about sailing?
When will you next use the “we try new things” mindset?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20+ years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes
BEACH, FAMILY TRAVEL, FISH, WATER
Plan a Family Vacation in Gulf County, Florida
- August 23, 2022
It’s getting more and more challenging to find places to explore that aren’t overrun with crowds. Places where you can get away from the hustle and easily spend most of the day outside. We love discovering those incredible destinations that still offer solitude and wide open spaces for our kids to run wild (and sharing them with you, of course!). Today we are spotlighting Creative Team member Jen Barnes’ family vacation to Gulf County, Florida. The activities and the pace of life in Gulf County, Florida, are perfect for families who want a beautiful location, less crowds, wonderful weather, and plenty to keep busy or just relax. If you’re looking for a great off-season, hidden gem travel spot, take a family vacation to Gulf County, Florida! Let’s show you around!

*This post was sponsored by Visit Gulf County. All opinions expressed and all photos contained herein belong to the author.

Where is Gulf County, Florida?

Gulf County, Florida, is located in the panhandle of Florida on the Gulf of Mexico coastline. Situated just east of major tourist hotspots like Panama City Beach and Destin, Gulf County is a pristine slice of heaven. The nearest major airports to Gulf County are in Panama City Beach and Tallahassee. Both are about a two-hour drive from Gulf County. Destin is about 2.5 hours away by car.

Yes, Gulf County is a bit remote. And that’s the point! This area is surrounded by natural lands that are not developed. You won’t find spring break crowds here! You also won’t find malls, amusement parks, putt putt courses, or high-rise hotels. This section of the Gulf Coast is not overdeveloped, leaving plenty of natural beauty and space to explore. There are just enough restaurants and shops to give you options, but still remains quiet.

How’s the weather in Gulf County?

Gulf County’s weather is another reason to visit. Temperatures remain mild throughout the year, although they do experience seasons. It’s hot in the summer (as expected), but there’s usually a nice breeze on the coast, and scattered rain tends to cool the area off. In November, you can expect temperatures in the 60-degree range. When we visited in April, we had daytime temps in the low 80 degrees with bright sunshine.

Gulf County, Florida area and features

Over 244 miles of shoreline wind through Gulf County, ranging from clear waters and white sand beaches to tranquil inland passages. The largest city (and county seat) is Port St. Joe. Other areas are Cape San Blas, St. Joe Beach, and Indian Pass. Cape San Blas is a narrow stretch of land that extends out from Port St. Joe and curves around St. Joseph Bay. One of the least populated and richest ecosystems along the Florida Coastline is T.H. Sone Memorial St. Joseph Peninsula State Park, which offers 1,900 acres of tranquil beaches and hiking along two nature trails.

Where to stay in Gulf County, Florida

Your best options for accommodations in Gulf County are the many vacation home rentals you can find out on Cape San Blas. When traveling with kids (of any age), we love staying in a home equipped with a full kitchen, laundry, and space to spread out.

We had an incredible stay in a gated neighborhood through Natural Retreats. The house was well-equipped in a beachfront neighborhood within walking distance of a gorgeous white sand beach. We loved having our own space to spread out, play games at night as a family, and prepare snacks and meals to take along for our days of adventure.

Natural Retreats also offers a rental delivery service for items such as beach chairs, umbrellas, wagons, skimboards, etc. What a joy to have these items available to rent, so you don’t have to lug them around and take up valuable packing space! Whether you are staying on the beach or near the beach, you will want some gear.

There are also a few hotels in Gulf County, Florida, available in the town of Port St. Joe and are an affordable option. There are also a host of well-rated campgrounds throughout the county. Many of the campgrounds offer full hookups for RVs, as well. When you are visiting nature’s playground, why not stay in nature?!

What to do on your family vacation in Gulf County, Florida

Gulf County beaches

The sugary white sand beaches of Gulf County are impeccable. You have quite a few spots to choose from along Cape San Blas to park your car or ride a bike from your rental home. We chose to drive so we could have all of our gear with us. We spent several hours at a time relaxing, playing beach games, and swimming in the ocean. Choose from dozens of beach access points. The 43 miles of shoreline really allows families to spread out.

Do not miss T.H. Stone Memorial St. Joseph Peninsula State Park! With boat ramps, spots for snorkeling, bathroom facilities, and picnic areas, you can spend an entire day enjoying the beach! These are truly the best family beaches on the Gulf coast if you want to have quiet family days together. We had the best afternoon playing games as a family.

Gulf Coast fishing

Gulf County, Florida is an angler’s paradise. Not only can you indulge in gulf coast deep sea fishing, but you can also find incredible in-shore fishing areas in St. Joseph Bay. Florida saltwater fishing is everywhere in this area, and if you just want to try beach fishing from your family spot, that’s great too. We noticed lots of solo fly fishing when the tides were low at sunset. It was a beautiful sight.

Our family enjoyed a full morning out in St. Joseph Bay doing some in-shore fishing with Captain Pete of Bounty Bay PSJ Charters. Pete provided everything we needed, including fishing rods, reels, and bait. He asked us what kind of experience we wanted and took such great care of us. Because we were only in town for part of a week, we decided we just wanted to have fun and do catch and release. However, if you want to catch to eat, he will make sure he gets you to those spots where you can catch enough for dinner! My daughter had never fished before, so Pete took his time showing her the ropes, and soon enough, she was catching fish like crazy. It was a perfect family morning.

Paddling in Gulf County

If you see a theme here, you’re not wrong. Everything about Gulf County is about getting out on the water. And how could you not? All of the magical moments happen on the water. The colors, salt, and sun just draw you out. We had the most fun with Happy Ours Kayak and Bike Outpost. We spent several hours out on the water with kayaks and SUPs, paddling around St. Joseph Bay, marveling at the manta rays and turtles, and just enjoying each other. The shallow see-through water was bliss, perfect for kids so they can splash around safely while paddling.

You can also rent bikes to ride along the Loggerhead Trail all the way up and down Cape San Blas. My kids were getting a bit angry, so we skipped the bikes, but wished we had gotten up earlier to enjoy them. Such is life with teenagers! Happy Ours will provide all the gear you need, and you can even have bikes delivered to where you are staying!

Where to eat in Gulf County, Florida

Gulf County has a little bit of everything in terms of restaurants, so we tried it all! Favorite dinner spots included Indian Pass Raw Bar for a fun and fabulous raw bar experience. The food was outstanding, but don’t miss out on the outdoor lawn games and live music scene. We also loved Longbill’s after a full day at the state park. They offer delicious fried pickles and a good mix of seafood and American dishes. For an evening in the town of Port St. Joe, make your way to Quatro Locos Mexican restaurant for outdoor dining. Afterward enjoy a walk to the Port St. Joe lighthouse and an unforgettable sunset.

We did lunch on the fly because we were so busy enjoying our time outdoors. In Port St. Joe, check out Joe Mama’s Wood Fire Pizza for a hearty salad or pizza. Out on Cape San Blas make a quick stop in Scallop Cove Store for a bite from the grill and stock up on other snacks and souvenirs. We enjoyed our burgers and hot dogs at a picnic area at Cape Palms Park, right near the beach access.

For a big breakfast before setting off for a morning of fishing, we filled up at the Sand Dollar Cafe for a traditional breakfast served in a cafeteria-style buffet. We enjoyed our breakfast outside while we planned our day. Another fun option that is CASH ONLY is Weber’s Donuts on Cape San Blas. Be warned — they will run out of donuts, so plan to arrive early.

Snacks and treats are always a must while on vacation. If you are in town, keep your eyes peeled for Shoobie’s Ice Cream Truck or Sugar Shack. If you are out on Cape San Blas, you can always stop into The Cape Trading Post.

Why a family vacation in Gulf County, Florida is awesome

Ordinary magic happens in places like Gulf County. Your family will enjoy outdoor time together disconnecting and reconnecting in one of the U.S.A.’s most scenic coastal areas. Spend time together away from the grind of home life (and away from the hustle and bustle of touristy areas), while you feel right at home on vacation. Everything is so relaxed while on a family vacation in Gulf County, Florida. At the same time, you will be able to try new things together and get out on the water for some fun.

For us, this was such a vital time away to be together and recharge amidst a very busy season of regular life. Our trip to Gulf County was amazing and we highly recommend this area to any family looking for natural beauty and lots of space to let their child run wild.

For more info on all the amazing activities and accommodations in Gulf County, check out their website: http://www.visitgulf.com

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Would you take a family vacation to Gulf County, Florida?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes
OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, SUMMER, WATER
How to Get Started in Youth Sailing
- July 18, 2022
Sailing on a boat in the open sea sounds like a magical (albeit expensive) adventure. But, getting into sailing is easier and more affordable than you might think. Youth sailing is a really exhilarating recreational activity and an exciting sport. If you think sailing is something that your kids might be interested in trying out, you may be at a loss on where and how to get started. However, you’re in luck! Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mom of three teens, is here to walk you through everything you need to know to get started with youth sailing. She’ll give you info on where to go, the best age to get started sailing, what to expect from lessons, how to find a youth sailing program near you, what gear you need, and so much more!

Getting into youth sailing

Sailing is not only one of the oldest modes of transportation, it’s one of the oldest water activities for enjoyment. How to get started in youth sailing may sound like a mystery – some hidden gem of knowledge that you need a personal invitation to get into. However, that’s not the case! I have personally been in that exact position with my own children and can speak to how intimidating it can feel to get started. But, if you have kids who love the water and want to learn some new skills, sailing is a great activity, sport, and hobby. After going through this learning process with my own kids, I’m excited to be able to pass this info on to you! I’ve put together this article with all the details and resources you need to get started with sailing. I’m here to encourage you and help you introduce your kids to the adventurous new activity of youth sailing.

You don’t need an ocean to learn how to sail

It may come as a surprise that you can find youth sailing programs in all 50 states in America. The only things you really need to sail are a body of water large enough to hold dinghy size sailboats and a location where wind can be utilized. There are a lot of places that can happen, so don’t worry if you don’t live on the coast somewhere. While coastal areas have more sailing opportunities, even landlocked states offer places for young sailors to get their start. My son learned on a large man-made lake in South Carolina, nowhere near the coast.

Where to get started in youth sailing

The best place to get a good start with learning how to sail is a youth sailing camp held at a local sailing club. Clubs that offer beginner sailing classes and lessons often have week-long camps for kids, designed to get them from zero to sailing proficiently in a week.

Some locations may not have a “sailing club” per se, but rather a marina with a few small crafts and a single instructor. My son first learned how to sail over the course of a week while at Boy Scout summer camp. There are a wide variety of summer programs for kids to learn about sailing. Summer is a good time to start because the weather conditions are most favorable.

Do your research to find a sailing club or camp

If your child is interested in learning how to sail, the first step is to do an internet search to find a sailing club near your home base. Alternatively, if your kids are ready to go away to camp, you may find a few sleep-away summer sailing camp options.

In my opinion, the two most important factors in choosing a program for new sailors are: (1) a focus on water safety and (2) a fun environment. The focus on safety is self-explanatory – your child needs to know how to stay safe when on the water. Making it fun is just as important, though. People who love sailing love for kids to learn sailing! Sailing instructors will work to teach kids because they want to pass on the skills and help others find the same enjoyment and love for the sport. Instructors that make sailing fun will make a huge difference in your child’s experience.

The best age to get started in youth sailing

You will find most programs divide kids based on their ability levels and not necessarily by age. There are sailing kids who have been on boats from an early age, but most begin learning the basics of sailing between 7 and 10 years of age. However, plenty of adults are also learning how to sail, so you’re never too old to learn.

Kids sailing lessons should only begin after a child can pass a swim test. Your child must be comfortable in the water on his/her own. Sailing instruction in a camp format will not always be one-on-one. So, if your child is not ready for group instruction, you may want to consider a few private sailing lessons first.

Consider the maturity level and attention span of your child

It is necessary for your child to have a good attention span and the ability to receive and pay attention to detailed verbal instruction. Expect light classroom instruction at the start of each day or lesson. However, sailing for children is best taught through hands-on, experiential learning. Kids will be shown a skill and then asked to show what they have learned.

Also, I think it’s best to have a conversation with your child to see how he/she feels about being in a potentially stressful situation. Most programs will put kids into a capsize drill and teach them how to respond for safety reasons. If you or your child is not ready for this, put off learning to sail for a bit until they are ready.

What to expect from youth sailing camp or lessons

Youth programs focusing on sailing are usually divided by skill level, not by age. Youth sailing classes can be categorized in the following ways: (1) beginner, (3) intermediate, and (3) advanced. Depending on the children’s skill levels, here are a few things they may learn and focus on at each level.

Beginner-level sailing lessons for kids

If your child is just starting out learning to sail and is brand new to sailing, you can expect sailing instruction to include both a foundation of basic sailing terms and a fundamental understanding of sailing. On-land seamanship, which includes boat rigging, basic sailing knots, and getting the boat ready to sail, are a part of beginner sailing. In addition, your child will learn how to get the boat into the water and how to handle it. This includes how to maneuver the sail lines, the rudder, and other technical skills.

Intermediate-level sailing lessons for kids

Intermediate sailing courses and camps will reinforce the sailing vocabulary and basic sailing rules. Then they add etiquette of boat handling around other boats on the water. Instructors will give intermediate youth sailors more experience out in the water. Weather and other circumstances beyond their control will challenge them. They will develop an understanding of the physics of sailing and learn how to sail upwind, downwind, and how to tack.

Advanced-level sailing lessons for kids

More advanced sailors will begin to learn about adventure sailing in more challenging conditions and may even begin to dip their toes into sail racing. High school sailing can be for the joy of sailing or the sport of sailing, so many kids continue to develop their skills through youth sailing lessons and camps as they reach their teen years. Junior sailing programs and high school teams usually focus on racing teams competing in regattas. This type of sailing requires more advanced instruction that goes into depth all about sailing and develops racing skills.

What gear do you need to get started sailing

Every beginner sailing program will provide kids with the sailing equipment they need, including beginner sailing boats. The club will loan all aspects of the kids’ sailboat, such as ropes and sails, and a youth sailing life jacket as part of the program.

Initially, you’ll just need to provide proper clothing for sailing. The best clothes to wear sailing are materials that dry quickly and don’t allow the cold dampness to linger. You will also need to send a sailing wetsuit with your child if your child will be learning in cold water.

As your child progresses in their sailing into experienced sailors, you may need to incorporate additional kids sailing gear. Sailing shoes and gloves will become necessary later. Depending on the climate where you live, you may need to invest in cold weather sailing gear, such as heavy waterproof jackets to keep kids warm and dry.

Otherwise, all beginner sailing camps and lessons should take care of the major gear. Sun protection is a must, though, so send your kids with sunscreen, a hat, and polarized sunglasses. Hours on the water can take a toll!

Preparing kids for sailing camp or lessons

If your child is apprehensive about learning to sail, I would encourage you to check out a few books from the library and a few YouTube videos so he/she can visualize what is ahead. There are also some fun sailing movies that your child can watch (just make sure to watch them first and vet them – some sailing movies have intense weather scenes that can be scary for some kids).

Benefits of learning how to sail

Youth sailing has many benefits, no matter how advanced a child’s skills become. The obvious benefits of sailing are the time outdoors and having an activity on the water that brings enjoyment. Basic sailing skills make this a lifelong benefit and an activity your child can enjoy for years and years.

Learning to harness the wind and make it work for your purpose is an incredible hands-on experience in physics. Your kids will hardly know they are learning because they will be having so much fun. I’ve also seen firsthand the confidence it gives kids in and around the water. Confidence in boat handling is also a lifelong skill that is very important, especially if you live close to water.

Young people love to learn new skills, and sailing is a skill that can get kids on a path to lifelong outdoors enjoyment. Sailing also comes with a lot of chores and responsibility. As much as kids can complain about tedious tasks, when you attach those tasks to something fun most kids enjoy the work aspect. There is a sense of pride in taking care of something you care about. As kids grow, they enjoy proving themselves in these ways. Watching kids pull their sailboats out of the water and de-rig their sailboats is rewarding as a parent, too.

Moving beyond basic sailing

Kids who want to explore sailing with more advanced sailing instruction can prepare themselves for even more sailing adventures and take their skills to the next level. Some will go on to enjoy the competitive aspect of racing sailboats, which can be exciting for kids who may not be particularly athletic. However, kids will find the physical aspects of sailboat racing are still a part of the sport. It tends to be more of a thinking sport than athletic prowess. Racing sailboats is a really unique team sport that could allow your child to thrive in a competitive environment, learn good sportsmanship, and be a part of something amazing. It also opens up scholarship opportunities at some schools.

Further explorations may open doors to family sailing trips where your child can take the rest of the family on adventures. It might also lead to a job. Perhaps some will get certified so they can bareboat charter for multi-day sailing in a really fabulous destination.

Would your kids be interested in youth sailing?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes
OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, TEENS
Finding Balance Between Organized Sports and Free Play for Kids
- March 8, 2022
As our kids get older and start showing an interest in organized sports, many families struggle with finding balance. Organized sports have many positive attributes and benefits for kids. But, they are also a time commitment that can take away from time spent outdoors or with family. Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mom of three teenagers, is here with tips and advice for parents on how to find balance between organized sports and free play for kids.

The choice to play sports

For many of us parents, we are living in a world where most of life is filed into the either/or categories. It appears to be no different when looking for a balance between play and organized sports. You either choose for your kids to play organized sports, or you swing in the other direction and choose not to participate in structured youth sports at all.

Many parents seem to think the choice to play sports or not is a clear “either/or” decision. But, I genuinely believe this can be a “yes, and” discussion, instead. The decision to play sports doesn’t have to be all-consuming. You can have kids that play sports and still make time for free play. Your kids can participate in sports and still prioritize nature and outdoor family fun. A balanced approach between the two is the sweet spot, which is what this post is about helping you find.

The difference between play and sports

While it may seem obvious what the differences are, as parents, we can often confuse play and sports. Of course, there are overlaps among both, as well. For the purposes of this article, let me define play as unstructured play or free play, either as an individual or with a group. Sports will be defined as organized sports or competitive youth sports, either as an individual or with a group.

Is it just me or do we often take the negative perspective when weighing parenting decisions? I noticed my frequent language around competitive youth sports contrasted with child initiated play as “don’t”, “can’t”, or “won’t”. As in I don’t want to trap my kids into one sport. As in I can’t structure my life around a sports schedule, or I won’t let my kids learn skills organically.

Together, let’s take a look at the plethora of positives in both youth sports and free play to see if we can marry the two and create a balanced family life for us and our kids. And for those of you who are looking for more outside time for your kids, many sports practices and games take place outside!

Benefits of youth sports

The benefits of playing sports encompass both body and mind. As kids develop physically, emotionally, and mentally, structured youth sports teams can play a vital role and teach them many important skills and values. You will find benefits of individual sports and team sports as kids progress in their skills and level of competitive play. Local youth sports can start as early as age 3 which can give kids a taste with very little commitment necessary.

Health benefits of youth sports

Youth sports organizations were created as a way to invite lots of kids into programs that work on specific skills such as running, jumping, kicking, catching, throwing, and more. The health benefits of sports are rather obvious as kids exercise their muscular and skeletal systems, often while breathing fresh air and soaking up Vitamin D. Coordination and flexibility are enhanced while simultaneously staving off risks of obesity and cardiovascular concerns.

Emotional benefits of youth sports

The emotional benefits of sports can be found in confidence building, a reduction in stress, and leadership skills. As kids are taught how to apply skills in sports, their confidence grows in what their body is capable of. The mere physical exertion creates a way for the body to eliminate stress and improves mental health in kids. Learning to be a good sportsman and to lose well and face failure is also part of emotional development that every kid needs. These are benefits to playing sports that can be difficult to replicate elsewhere.

Social benefits of youth sports

Social benefits include blossoming friendships, and a sense of belonging. Both are crucial to child development. Each of my children have lifelong friends that began on a team or in a skills class/lesson. Kids learn to cooperate and communicate with one another while working together on a sports team. Remember that youth sports participation can be an incredible way for only children to get that extra bit of peer interaction.

Community benefits of youth sports

Local youth sports and summer youth sports are also an incredible way to bring in kids from the community that may not have other opportunities to be active or get outdoors time. Coaching youth sports is also a way for parents to snag extra time with their kids if they are working full time. There are also opportunities for mentoring in youth sports, which bring the community together and provide support to families in need. My kids have gotten to play on teams with kids they never would have met otherwise. It opens up their worlds. There are organizations working hard to create positive community involvement in youth sports.

Benefits of sports in school

Another major benefits of organized sports is the opportunity for kids to represent their school. Whether an athlete is competing as an individual or on a team, there is something special about school sports. Yes, the practice and game schedules can be hectic, but the bonding among student athletes is incredible. Kids will face all kinds of developmental markers like uneven play time, inter-squad competition, and learning from different coaches in new ways. All things, if approached with a positive mindset, that will help shape kids and get them ready to leave the nest in the future. And it helps instill pride for your community and school in your childen.

Benefits of free play for kids

There are numerous developmental benefits of free play for children of all ages, and they begin at a very young age. Unlike sports, most free play starts very organically within the family structure. Parents of young children can visibly see the positive effects of free play starting in the toddler years. The effects last well into the teen years as every kid needs time to let their minds and bodies move and explore without instruction.

Physical benefits of play

Coordination and motor skills begin developing at an early age primarily through play. General movement, balance, and strength are all flourishing in the midst of free play. Most kids and parents don’t even realize they are teaching their bodies how to adapt to their play circumstances. Physical risky play is showing their bodies what they can and cannot handle as they fall down and learn how to get up and try again.

Cognitive benefits of free play

As kids play without the interference of instruction or guidance from adults, they are learning to problem solve and expanding their critical thinking skills. Natural creativity and imaginative play can flow without restriction in free play. This is where innovation can truly take shape, no matter the age. Content knowledge and memory are challenged as kids explore the outdoors world. Sensory play in the mud, water, and sand helps kids file away important information for future nature play encounters.

Emotional benefits of free play

Active free play gives kids the opportunity to express themselves without a coach or teacher telling them they are doing something right or wrong, allowing them to develop a sense of self. Self confidence builds as children experience open ended play where scores and points can be ignored or welcomed or made up! Free play also allows the release of emotions in a healthy way through running and jumping and wearing themselves out.

Finding a balance between play and organized sports

What I hope you will see is that many of the positives of structured youth sports and unstructured free play overlap and compliment one another. I can’t tell you exactly how to find a balance, but I can encourage you that a balance is achievable.

First, give those young kids all the free play time you can. Be with them outdoors and foster a love for moving their bodies and exploring the world around them while they are small. Nothing bad can come from that, I promise.

Second, let your children lead you into the organized sports world when they are ready and interested. If your daughter wants to try soccer, let her try. If your son has no interest in baseball, don’t force it. Focus on the importance of movement, not skill development. As your kids gets older and team sports become more demanding, continue to have reasonable conversations about your family’s values of time and money and how sports affects everyone. They may not like your parental decisions at this point, but they can reason and understand.

Third, a balanced family life is of the utmost importance and will look different for each family. We all have dynamics to contend with that others don’t. For example, we have three children in a 5 year span so we could not physically be in multiple places at once when they were young. That affected the decisions we made and the activities they could participate in. Finding balance in life requires boundaries and firm decisions that parents must take control to achieve.

Words of caution on burnout and injuries

A few things to keep your eye on as your kids progress and excel include injuries in youth sports and burnout in youth sports. It should come as no surprise that overuse of arms and legs can wreak havoc on kids bodies. Personally, we never allowed our oldest son to play any travel baseball because he is a pitcher. We didn’t want his arm giving out at a young age so we compromised and found team tournament play to be a good middle ground. Any child who begins a sport young and continues for years and years will face burnout at some point. Give them a break if needed. No sport needs to be a kid’s sole identity.

Another warning would be not to swing too strong in one direction or the other. A healthy balanced life should include some form of organized sports and free play, even if it’s not always. If your child tries youth sports and it doesn’t stick, don’t sweat it! We have close friends who have a child that never enjoyed organized sports, but took to rock climbing and kayaking early. Don’t get too caught up in one way is right and the other is wrong. The point of sports and play is for active enjoyment in life.

Big kids still need free play

As kids get older, it’s seems like a natural progression for them to move from free play to more structured play with rules and parameters. It’s natural and happen. But, I have also found that big kids still need space in their lives for free play. You don’t outgrow play. At times, organized sports, especially school sports, can feel like an obligation or a chore for a child. Make sure to create time for free play for your teens and tweens because their bodies and brains need that release without the responsibility.

How are you creating a balance between play and organized sports?

Additional resources:
- Tips for Spending More Time Outside with Kids
- Free Play in Spring with Kite Flying
About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes
FAMILY TRAVEL, INFORMATION, OUTDOOR ACTIVITIES, TEENS
Healthy Risk Through Outdoor Adventure and Travel
- November 10, 2021
Risk is a part of our everyday lives. Learning to navigate and assess risk is an essential life skill for all kids. But embracing risky play and feeling comfortable in our decision to let kids take risks can be hard for parents. How do we teach our kids about healthy risk while still maintaining a safe and secure environment? Well, you can’t always. However, there are ways to do it with intention. Today, Jen Barnes, South Carolina mom to three teenagers is here to help realize the benefits (and needs) of letting your kids take healthy risks. She shows us that outdoor adventure and travel are the two best ways to embrace healthy risk and their place in the development of our kids.

What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly!”

What is risk?

Risk is most often defined as the possibility of suffering a harmful event or exposure to the chance of injury or loss. Risky play can generally be defined as thrilling and exciting forms of play that involve a risk of physical injury.

But did you know the synonyms of risk are opportunity, venture, fortune, and fortuity?

So, which is it: is risk good or is risk bad? Of course, it’s not that simple. The complexity is in understanding what is the relationship between risk and reward. We can give our kids understanding through experiences to guide them along in assessing risk vs reward and frame the concept of “no risk no reward” with a strong foundation.

Remember, only by taking risks can kids learn to manage risk intelligently, thus creating a habit of healthy risk-taking. Characteristics of kids who are healthy risk-takers include tenacious, persistent, opportunity seekers, and courage. Aren’t those the type of characteristics we are all trying to instill in our kids?

What does risk have to do with the outdoors?

Unlike financial investments, there is no practical risk-reward ratio in nature. Hopefully, this makes risk a little more approachable. There is a simplicity of trial and error as kids play in their natural environment. Soon, healthy risk becomes part of play and an essential part of development.

Many believe that playing it safe is the riskiest choice we can ever make because it stunts development and personal growth. Scott Sampson who wrote How to Raise a Wild Child says, “by preventing our kids from engaging in risky play we are also preventing them from how to navigate risk. A skill they will desperately need as teenagers and the rest of their lives.”

Healthy risk requires play

Children learn through play. Children learn holistically through unstructured free play outdoors. As their imaginations and creativity are sparked into flame outside, they are also problem-solving and engaging in cause and effect. It may seem like a jump to say these things have a part in risk, but as you know, lessons layer upon each other.

Every time your 6-year-old daughter runs across a wobbly log she is enjoying the beauty of her environment while learning her own physical capabilities. She may fall off, or the log may move, demonstrating to her she took a healthy risk she could manage. Even if things didn’t go the way she wanted them to she is learning. Depriving her of this experience by saying “no, that’s not safe” means you are depriving her of learning her capabilities (and limits) and embracing her potential.

The outdoors has a way of testing not just physical acuity, but also mental. The many variables of weather, wildlife, and unstable surroundings give kids a chance to try, fail, try again, and succeed in their endeavors. Learning through play in nature contributes to giving kids a strong foundation.

From a 7-year-old climbing on boulders to a 17-year-old planning a backpacking adventure, healthy risk-taking is involved and growth happens because of it. I love what our friends @laneslesstraveled on Instagram had to say about kids and risk and consequences in a recent post. Check it out for some perspective from a typical family that spends a lot of time outdoors.

Practical ways to invite healthy risk in for young kids

The obvious answer the question about how to find “healthy risks” is straightforward — get outside. But, I wanted to provide ideas for age-appropriate healthy risks and actions you can take with your kids today. While I wholeheartedly believe that any time outside is worthwhile, these ideas will give your kids a chance to grow in confidence and competence outdoors. The benefits of outdoor play will be seen over time as your child develops.

As a personal anecdote, I had an early walker who was climbing playgrounds by age 1. She was tiny and it made me incredibly nervous, but telling her no did nothing. How could I take her to play outdoors but restrain her from play? At that age, kids are impossible to reason with, so my best tactic was to stand underneath her and encourage her to press on. She and I learned together how much she was capable of and I was completely amazed.

We can learn from Linda Akeson McGurk who says, “As parents we need to resist the urge to fall into fear-based approaches that drive parents to hold on to children too tightly and prevent them from growing in healthy ways.” Holding on too tightly would have frustrated both of us.

Risky play activities for kids

Risky play involves kids experimenting with what they can accomplish and pushing themselves to figure out what will happen without knowing the exact outcome. It’s kind of like a science experiment, where kids get to test out their bodies, physical ability, environment, and coordination to determine what they can (and can’t) do and what they’re comfortable with. It’s a way for them to figure out how their bodies work and how the world works around them. Risky play doesn’t mean dangerous play.

Here are the types of “risky play” activities that kids can engage in:
- climbing (trees, towers)
- jumping off things (stairs, rocks, the diving board)
- experiencing speed (swings, ziplines, skiing, skateboarding)
- using tools (hammer, saw)
- rough and tumble play
- balancing activities
Nature fosters healthy risk-taking

Getting young children out into open spaces like the woods or a farm is helpful in introducing natural risk. Without the distractions of toys or screens, kids learn to find and make their own fun. Often you will find young kids creating their own games and contests in these outdoor spaces typically climbing over natural obstacles and jumping and running free through mud and muck. They like to push their bodies to see what they can accomplish and test the limits in a natural environment.

They fall down and get dirty a lot. Sometimes they scrape a knee or get some bruises. They fail, they succeed, they try again, they push their limits, they question their ability. And every time they do, they learn why that happened, what they’re capable of, and how to manage it differently (or the same) next time. Those types of experiences give kids the opportunity to see what produces the results they want or need in a given situation, which is exactly what risk assessment is all about.

Escalating the risk factor for older kids

As kids get older, they need healthy ways to foster independence and confidence. Older kids feel a strong need to prove themselves capable, which becomes apparent in their actions and decision-making. Of course, this plays out differently amongst the many personalities. But, that desire is there in some way.

As parents, it is our job to encourage and facilitate activities that will give our kids an opportunity to test themselves, but still keep them safe. You will notice that older kids will begin to try new things, as well as resist help, which is completely normal development.

When your child starts pushing the limits, instead of a blanket “be careful,” try asking questions like, “How do you think you’ll make it across the creek?” or “Which route are you taking up the tree?” These questions give your older kids the power to make their own decisions but also guide them into thinking through their decisions.

Try new things

Healthy risk-taking often includes charting new territory. There are some wonderful outdoor adventure parks and outdoor adventure camps that provide big fun and big challenges to kids. Floating water parks in lakes and water obstacle courses are summertime activities that give kids some extra adventure. Ziplines and ropes courses give them a thrill and test their abilities in a safe way.

Consider signing up your kids for an adventure camp to let them try new things. They will get a small taste of several activities and one is bound to be a favorite. As a side note, this also gives kids a space to try something before you invest a bunch of money or time into a specific activity.

Listen to what you kids interests are and let them start to take the lead on activities. By age 10 kids are developing pretty strong opinions and are in the beginning stages of sorting out what they like and how they want to spend their time. If you are having a tough time tearing them away from shopping excursions or playing video games, have them invite a friend along.

Healthy risk and teenagers

Risky behavior can seem scary and overwhelming to parents of teenagers. The adolescent stage is a powerful combination of hormone overload (and no idea what to do with those hormones), and an intense need to prove something to themselves and those around them. Much of what we hear in the news is the ways teenagers choose negative risks that have no valuable rewards.

Teenagers are looking for an escape and a boundary-pushing experience. I truly believe both of those needs can be met in the outdoors. We, as parents, can show our teens how to exchange poor risk choices for healthy risk choices.

As a parent of three teenagers, I can tell you with full assurance that kids will push the limits, whether you are involved or not. Therefore, the more you participate in their endeavors, the better, so you can help guide their choices and actions. I don’t mean that becoming a helicopter parent is the answer. That will just backfire and they’ll choose to engage in risky activities away from you, despite your warnings.

When you are with your kids as they adventure, you affirm their choices and actions. You approve their desire for bigger challenges and more independence. It’s not going to be easy (anything involving parenting rarely is). This will require you to push your own limits from time to time as well. It will require you to take a step back and let them lead. It forces you to trust them in new ways. And, it may push you into activities and adventures you never dreamed of!

For example, I never thought I would learn to surf in my 40’s. However, my kids wanted to give it a try. In order to spend time with them and be a part of their risk-taking, I had to get out there with them. It was all new and not a choice I would have made for myself. But, getting out of my comfort zone shows my teens that hard things are doable and it’s ok if you aren’t very good at it!

Healthy risk activities for teens

Next time you are thinking about outdoor activities for teens, consider adding things that provide a bit of a challenge or thrill for them and can help them push boundaries in a healthy way.

Maybe consider renting ATVs as a way to get deeper into backcountry areas. Find a hike that ends with a bang like a waterfall they can swim in or cliff jump nearby. Perhaps instead of pulling up next to a lake to fish, you can hike into a spot with your fishing gear (or kayak there). Sign your kids up for a one-on-one lesson in something wild like kiteboarding or wakeboarding. There are also a host of winter activities that encourage tweens and teens to get outside and keep things just a bit exciting.

Another level of risk: adventure travel

Outdoor adventure travel may sound intimidating to some families, but I’m here to encourage you to give them a try and let you know that adventures come in many shapes and sizes. If travel in general or travel to a specific destination is an adventure to YOU, then it’s an adventure.

Traveling to a new place in and of itself is a healthy risk. The risk factor enters as you introduce your kids to new experiences that are different from your daily life. Don’t underestimate the power of exposing your kids to landscapes that look nothing like your typical surroundings and cultures that are different from your own. Even trying new foods can be a healthy risk. Getting our kids away from distractions plays a big role in their development as their confidence grows.

Outdoor adventure resorts are popping up across the world to provide families a place to spend quality time together while enjoying boundary-pushing experiences. These resorts cater to families and have a wide variety of activities like canyoneering, kayaking, zip-lining, sailing, and more outdoor adventure activities. Think of these resorts like camp for the entire family.

Favorite family adventure travel destinations

Our family loves traveling to new places and exploring. We love cities just as much (if not more) than beaches and mountains. There are so many amazing places out there to explore. And each destination brings on a whole new set of thrills, obstacles, adventures, and explorations. Travel is a great way to get out of your comfort zone and expand you horizons. Here are some family-friendly adventure travel destinations, perfect for finding a wide variety of activities for kids of all ages and interests,

Summer adventure travel destinations (May-September)
- Vail, Colorado
- Big Sky, Montana
- Voyageurs National Park, MN
- Maine
- Canadian Rockies
- Scandinavia
- Alaska
- Japan
- Dolomites, Italy
- Iceland
Winter adventure travel destinations (October-April)
- Costa Rica
- Patagonia (Argentina or Chile)
- Florida Keys
- Snowshoe, West Virginia
- New Mexico
- Big Bend National Park, TX
- Namibia
- Hawaii
- Belize
- Morocco
This is a vast and wide list, but I just wanted to get your wheels turning and give some inspiration. While this list is nowhere near exhaustive, you can see a few patterns. If you have water activity-loving kids, you may find more adventurous activities in the October to April list. You will find that many of the ski resorts transform in the summer months to give kids epic outdoor experiences. It’s a big world with a whole lot of variety.

*Pro tip: I keep a folder in my Instagram that I titled “Teen Destinations.” I save posts to it anytime I come across a destination or activity that looks fun, so I can easily access ideas for adventure planning.

Kids and teens need the outdoors

It would be irresponsible of me not to bring attention to the staggering reality regarding kids and the outdoors as a whole. Many of the statistics we see and hear are downright scary. We have all heard the number of hours that kids and teens are spending on screens is increasing at an alarming rate. And it’s not just video games and Dude Perfect YouTube videos. More of our kids’ education is being conducted on a screen. Their main methods of communication are through a smartphone via text, Snapchat, Tik Tok, and others.

Suffice it to say, kids rarely get a break from the constant noise and distractions. Did you know that our kids’ generation is in danger of a life expectancy lower than the generation before it? This is scary and something has to change.

Here is the good news- we can take action today to do something about it. In my research, I learned some incredible things about the effects of nature on our kids’ well-being. As little as 15 minutes in the woods scientifically shows a reduction in the stress hormone cortisol. When our human senses encounter nature, alpha waves are created in our brain giving us the neural resonance of relaxation.

Nature not only makes us feel better, but it also alters our biology, measurably reducing our fight or flight response. This is the automatic physiological reaction to an event that is perceived as stressful or frightening and triggers an acute stress response that prepares the body to fight or flee. Do you see that? Nature helps our kids in risky situations.

Neuroscientists are on the path to proving the positive effects of nature. Healthy interpersonal relationships, increased generosity toward others, as well as a sense of connection to the larger community of life are byproducts. Those positive effects are motivating to give kids more outside moments. In turn, they have ways to demonstrate their ability to manage healthy risk in a productive way.

For more risky play ideas

Included are resources that will help you teach your kids about healthy risks through outdoor adventures and travel.

Check out these books for practical help:
If you are looking for inspiration on family adventure travel check out this post on visiting a Dude Ranch during the winter.

What activities can you plan to introduce
healthy risk into the development of your kids and teenagers?

About the author

Jen has been married to her original adventure partner, John, for 20 years. She is a mama to 3 teenagers who, although they have busy and independent lives, love to adventure in the outdoors when they can. Jen is a native of Chicago, but has lived in South Carolina for two decades and calls it home. She’s always planning the next adventure for herself or her friends, whether near or far. Hiking, kayaking, sailing with her family, or traveling the world is all about the experience and the journey. Her extroverted nature keeps her talking and smiling with anyone she meets along the way. She’s on a mission to show other busy families that traveling with teenagers is possible and fun!

You can find Jen online in the following locations:
Instagram: @gofamilyadventure
Website: Go Family Adventure
RWMC Posts: Jen Barnes

Jen Barnes

The importance of mother-daughter getaways

Make the getaway intentional

Intentional conversation

Intentional activities

Expectations for your mother-daughter getaway

Why choose an outdoorsy location for your getaway?

Top 5 outdoorsy mother-daughter getaways in the Southeast US

1. Sky Ridge Yurts in Bryson City, NC

Glamping, adventure, and access to a national park

2. The Inn at Serenbe in Chattahoochee Hills, GA

Horses, food, massages, and bonfires

3. Treetop Hideaways at Ruby Falls in Chattanooga, TN

Twinkle lights, lookouts, surrounded by nature

4. The Sanctuary on Kiawah Island, SC

Beaches, bikes, and kayaking

Why get away outside?

When should you do an outdoor-focused mother-daughter getaway?

When will you plan your next outdoorsy mother-daughter getaway?

About the author

Using nature as a tool

Teen mental health today

Factors affecting teen mental health

Screens

Traumatic experiences

Teen mental health and screens

Access to adult content

Social media

Social media can make teens less social

Social media shows teens what they’re missing

Teen expectations and exhaustion

A generational shift in stress

How nature plays a positive role in teen mental health

Sense of calmness

Confidence and self-esteem

Gratitude

Stress relief

Focus

Connection

How to use nature as a nurturer in the life of your teens

Keep it simple

Try new things outside

Let your teen lead the way

Encourage your teens to invite friends

The connection between teen mental health and nature

How do you help your teen get outside? Do you feel it helps?

About the author

My “aha” moment

Trying new things…crabbing

You don’t know what you don’t know

You never know where trying new things will lead you

Results of the “we try new things” mindset

Using travel and trips to try new things

You don’t have to love the new things you try

A note about trying new things with a guide

Other adventures to inspire you to try new things

When will you next use the “we try new things” mindset?

About the author

Where is Gulf County, Florida?

How’s the weather in Gulf County?

Gulf County, Florida area and features

Where to stay in Gulf County, Florida

What to do on your family vacation in Gulf County, Florida

Gulf County beaches

Gulf Coast fishing

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Why a family vacation in Gulf County, Florida is awesome

Additional travel resources

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You don’t need an ocean to learn how to sail

Where to get started in youth sailing

Do your research to find a sailing club or camp

The best age to get started in youth sailing

Consider the maturity level and attention span of your child

What to expect from youth sailing camp or lessons

Beginner-level sailing lessons for kids

Intermediate-level sailing lessons for kids

How do you help your teen get outside?
Do you feel it helps?

What activities can you plan to introduce
healthy risk into the development of your kids and teenagers?